Your Life Matters; From Outcast to Chosen with Shannon Monet
You are going to be blown away by the wisdom of this show. And while wisdom is often associated to age, that's not the case here. Today's guest is 15 and she is officially the youngest person we have ever interviewed on The FIT in Faith podcast. I am honored to just share and broadcast her message of purpose or message of light and ultimately where it was stemmed from, which is a place of suicide, a place of ideation, a place of isolation, and what is wild about that is it is part of my story and is in my world.
Shannon talks through some of the areas that have affected her identity, and I'm just so grateful that there is a young voice like this that can speak into the life of our children. And honestly, maybe she is speaking to you - maybe you're the person that is in a place of isolation or a place of suicide ideation.
Your life matters. So please know you're not alone. We want to flip the mind, flip the light on understanding that there are people who love you, who will call life out into you.
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Who is she? Shannon Monet is 15 years old. Shannon is extremely focused and desires to make a positive impact on todays and the next generation. Shannon has found her value and purpose. She believes no one should be left alone, or feel alone. She wants her story to help the lost find their identity. She believes everyone has their unique purpose and should work to walk in that purpose. There are many suffering from suicidal thoughts, depression, anxiety, fear, and more. Her goal and purpose are to use her voice through social media, graphic design, and capturing visuals on YouTube. She has an incredible and undying love for people and wants to be a light in this very dark world. That is Shannon Monet!
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Show Notes: Your Life Matters
All right, you are going to be blown away by the wisdom of this show. And wisdom is often associated to age and yeah, that's not the case here. Today's guest is 15. She is officially the youngest. Uh, non adult person, boys, uh, connection that we have ever made on the fit and faith podcast. And I am honored to just share and broadcast her message of purpose or message of light and ultimately where it was stemmed from, which is a place of suicide.
A place of ideation, a place of isolation. And what is wild about that is in my world, I have seen this so many times and very connected in many ways, because I went through this story. I went through this expression. I went through this conversation in my own mind when I was 29 with kids. And so to think through it can happen such a young age.
And I know that social media is a part of it. And she talks through some of those other areas that have. Her culture and affected her identity. And I'm just so grateful that there is a young voice like this that can speak into the life of our children. And honestly, maybe you, maybe you're the person that is in a place of isolation or a place of suicide ideation.
Your life matters. Your very existence is an honoring. The God himself, we breathe life into you. So please know you're not alone. Please know that you are not, uh, in a state of, of loss, but instead you have every opportunity to gain. And so flipping the mind, flipping the light on understanding that there are people who love you, who will call life out into you.
And that you can do that through so many tactics that she hadn't actually shared today. And as a mom, There are moments of revelation. And there are also that moments of conviction of I can do better. And I, and I want to do better for the youth that are in my life, that I'm connected to, that I love so dearly.
So you have to get on to her YouTube or Instagram. Um, she has an incredible video that we watched towards the end. So you're going to hear the soundtrack of this idea is called the outcast and it's really her story and it's truly impacted. Especially the visual. So if you're not listening on one of our locations where you can see this, whether it's social media, Facebook, or YouTube or LinkedIn, I really encourage you to go check her out, check out this video or go see the lives.
We appreciate you. We are so grateful and I hope that you tag Shannon Monet and myself, Tamra and dress at all the places. When you show up and leave a review, we're excited to hear what your thoughts are on this show. Appreciate you, Shannon. Thanks for being here. Welcome to the fit and bait podcast. It is an acronym representing founders, innovators, and trailblazers who are looking to live a life wholly, fully, authentically, and truly fit as base for us to connect on the raw real stories of mind, body, and soul alignment of entrepreneurs in kingdom life.
I'm your host, Tamra and dress. And this podcast, isn't like the cookie cutter interview experience. I've been coined the entrepreneurial rabbi. And so we do go there unscripted, no matter how far wide, deep or high there is. My desire is to see people rise from the inside, out, into their greatest calling, by sharing their truest stories.
And tips as a purpose activator and brand builder. I believe our successes and failures are derived from who and whose we are not what we do, but strategy and vision are equally as important to the mission. So let's cut to the chase together and get fit in faith.
Jen. Hello? How are you? I realized that we were sitting there and I was so excited to share your YouTube video that I thought I was sharing it. And I wasn't like, why is she quiet?
Well, you look very composed. So for those who are listening to the podcast, you didn't know that there was just an air of silence since the intro, but those who are on live with us. Hi, we are not mannequins. We do exist are so excited to have you here and. So thrilled to introduce today's guest on the fit and faith podcast.
What is so cool about this? Y'all is you can see your, if you're not watching live, I hope that you do come to our YouTube channels, come to our Instagrams, do all the things, but recognize that this is a useful. Because she's 15 viewed it. That is just a voice for the next generation. And honestly, I don't think it's deaths for the next generation or your generation.
I think it's for such a time as this, which actually propels everyone, because this is a conversation that we're going to have today that affects so many and generation age is not a component of it. So, Shannon, thank you for being here and thank you for saying yes to your mission. So young. Yes. Thank you for having me.
So let's talk about that. What is that mission? What is the storyline? Well, I just always want it to be a light, even as a little kid. I just always wanted to make someone happy and just always being a voice and effective. And what really drove me to do this was everything I'd been through from being bullied and from people just talking about me and then just so many things, but then God took me through so much.
But then he showed me that he was with me through everything I faced and it's just, I'm just, my mind was just blown from everything that he's done for. He's just amazing. He is. He's so good. And I think what people forget is I know when my, when I was 15, I was also learning about God and exploring who he is.
But, uh, and I was also had a mic and was testifying to that, but there was like shadows of situations that were unfolding in my life. There was secret places. There was secret parts of shame, uh, that were associated to me. And so talk to us about how. Fully walk in the light and not let culture actually shift and shake who you are as an identity piece.
Well, I have three things for that to actually say about that. Cause it also falls in with your identity as well. So here's what I'm going to say. All right. First of all, stop following everyone around you, what they're doing and being influenced by the world, you know, because instead of. Following what everyone else is doing.
You have to be you and do you, and be set apart. And number two, um, remember what God says about you through his word and relying on what God is, who God is. And third using affirmations. That's number one for me as well, because you're building up yourself. You're declaring things over your life. And even though you may feel weak, sometimes you have to say, I am strong.
I am confident. I am successful. You have to keep speaking over yourself in order to build up that self-esteem and that's how you're able to be a light. That's how you're able to be effective. When you start to shift your mind. That's awesome. And y'all, she's coming right out the gate with some tangible tactics.
I hope you guys have a pen and paper out. I love the affirmations that you shared because it is, it's so true that out of the heart, our mouth speaks. And sometimes we have to control our mouth and our mindsets and understand that the affirmations you light not really believe. I am confident. I am strong.
And so how do you help people understanding that? Not just saying the words, but then following suit with them in action in order to make them be true. What do you do in order to parallel the two? Well, at first I didn't believe it myself, so I just kept speaking it where it become repetitive to me, where I was like, okay, I don't believe it right now.
But I'm going to keep speaking over myself until I believe it, even though I may not look like I'm this yet, I will be because I'm called to it. So you have to really just stay focused on it and really just keep being persistent with it until you believe. It's good. And I think that that's almost like the planting of the seed on the fertile soil versus planting the seed on the rock where it actually can't do anything.
And so the mustard seed of faith allows something beautiful to grow and emerge from that. And when you think about that in association to you're a high schooler, uh, and, and do you go into high school on a consistent basis and see like brokenness, like w what is that experience like? I can't even fathom being in high school connections.
Social media and all the outlets that you guys have from an access or a, almost like that depression component. Well, I'm currently online right now, so, but I'm also able to see like other students, like online, like people I'm friends with or who I'm connected with and it just, all you see is broken. It's all over social media.
And then you just see kids following everything, following what they see on social media. And it's really, it messes with your mental, mental state and all I see. Or just kids doing things that are just not right. And, you know, that's why it's just my mission to be at light because I see so much and you see kids taking their lives at a young age cause they don't know they're lost.
And all they see is, you know, people are doing this. They want to be like that. And they're affected by it. Yeah. And I think that's a really huge conversation piece of this idea that like depression or anxiety or lost of identity can then lead to something so monumental, like suicide. And it feels like you all are like exposed to it in a way different way than we were exposed to it.
And we were getting. Why do you think that is, do you think it's comes from like movies or USIC or well music for sure. Definitely. Um, it could be music. It could be even like drugs and different things like that because you're opening up that portal. You're opening up for yourself to be affected by that.
Like even just listening to negative songs, watching negative movies, they're all doorways and. Even social media as well. That's also a huge doorway for me because you're just allowing all that to come inside of you, all the negativity and don't get me wrong. There is positive positivity and social media, but there's also negative things as well.
So kids are being influenced by that. And I think that's, what's really leading them to be lost and leading them to suicide. Yeah. It's interesting. There's something called like herd mentality. Mm, where if the herd is all going in one direction, it's almost like I, for some reason I'm imagining lion king, right?
When all the herd was coming, they're all going in one direction. There was no stopping them. Even when the father fell into it. Like it didn't matter. They were all going one direction. It feels like all the sheep are like running off the cliff right now. And now you're being infiltrated to like stand up on that rock and be like, no, like, don't go that way.
How do you utilize your light? How do you utilize your voice? Um, in order to help, like, be that space for people to say and recognize, okay, this is a, this is something different. I've never heard this message before. Maybe it's from a faith lens or maybe it's just from a motivation lens. How are you actually showing.
Well, I do love to do YouTube videos. That's like, I just love making them. And also I do things on Instagram as well, because I just, it's just my, I don't know how to explain it, but I really just enjoy doing it. I do. I make things with graphic design, like different flyers and everything. Just to draw the use of time.
And yeah, so I use social media. I love that. I love that. And this is like the creative spirit. Right. And I think people, they hinder themselves from actually standing in purpose because they feel. Why would I do that? Or what does that actually going to serve? Or who am I actually going to touch? But you have hundreds and hundreds of followers across multiple platforms.
And so how do you just continue even not really worried about the likes or the followers, what like motivates you every single day. Just keep going. God, God, and God, really the only one who really motivates me to do it and. Just with him, I'm able to do all things because sometimes it can be hard sometimes I'm like, okay, I'm done.
I'm ready to stop. I'm tired. But it's like, no, it's a sacrifice. I opened my mouth. I said, yes. Cause that's all it takes is a willingness. So I'm like, okay, I'll do it. God is for you. And it's for your people. So. I'll go ahead and do it. Oh my gosh. You guys heard that you heard that out of the mouth of the vapes, right?
The truth is dropped. And it's that knowing that so many times when we're called out of the boat, as Peter was, we'd just sit there and like, did you really say. Do I have to go, is that my only option? And God just like, get up. I already told you what to do. And so understanding, purpose and understanding how it's connected to passion and the Lord's work at such a young age.
I don't know if you realize the gift that it is because I had the, one of those mid-life I call him a quarter-life cause I'm not midlife yet. I, it happened when I was 29 where I was just totally rug swept out from underneath me because the Boulder that God threw my way. I finally had no choice, but to respond and to get out of the boat and not stay in a place of comfort.
So how can you help other people just through your message to recognize. Sometimes it's the uncomfortable places that God can actually utilize you. And it is against that. Heard, like you're going to look different than everybody else. How do you walk in confidence with that? Well, it took me a while.
Honestly, it took a processing moment because I realized like God allowed me to go through that thing for a reason to be processed and. If I didn't go through it, I wouldn't have been able to be where I am now. So sometimes he puts us through those things in order for us to be built and prepare for what he has for us later on.
So you just keep fighting and keep going through it because it's for a reason. So I'm like bring on the trials and tribulations because it'll help me grow. Whoa, come on. You guys, she's doing it. She's preaching from such a young age, but it's not just the fact that it's got to be some holier than now.
And I think that that's what a lot of kids who were like, oh, you're Christian, right? It's almost like there's this bad rap associated to God himself, who is their creator, who is their maker? Who is their infiltrator towards purpose and their access. To getting out of the crowd. Uh, how do you talk to people who don't know God when you're you're with them?
Well, I just like to be at lifting and I like to show love to them. That's how I really show my light to people who aren't Christians. Cause I'm not like, always like God got it. Let God shine through me where they're like, okay, what makes you so happy? And what makes you a light? What makes you glow every day?
And I'm going to be like, okay, well there's God and you want to talk about it? Okay. There you go. I talked to somebody actually about God. They actually ended up giving their life, their life to him. So, um, on that, that's all it takes. It does. And I love that you, you didn't use this specific word, but you said willingness, which I think is associated to surrender.
Like you have to stop worrying what everybody else thinks. You have to stop worrying about the comparison component or what if that person doesn't like me. In high school, there's like cliques. And like, there's the cool crowd. There's the out crowd. There's, there's all these different cliques of people.
Do you feel like you found like a place to call home with a group of friends who share or partner, or do you feel really alone in your mission? I actually, I still feel alone, but I have gotten now, so it's like, okay, I'm good. All I need is God, to be honest, sometimes. Here's the thing he has placed me in a lonely place, but I'm comfortable with it because not a lot of kids understand me mentally and it's kind of hard to find that group of people.
And I just pray that he brings something to me where we're like, like-minded where we're able to, you know, strive towards him. But yeah. How proud are your parents? I'm just thinking of my own little girl. Who's seven and how I can't wait until she's 15 and able to jump on a podcast. That's heard across the globe to be able to speak God's name.
Do they, are they like very devout in their faith? Did they like intrude when you were in that place of isolation and depression to come in and bring life to you? What, what was their role in all? Well, my mother, yeah, she's always played a huge role in my life. Um, just by praying for me and always encouraging me and giving me words of wisdom.
Even during that time, when she, she didn't even know at the time that I was going through all this in school, but just gotta use her as a way to talk to me as well, giving me words of wisdom. And she didn't know at the time until I told her after the fact, but it's just amazing. Just having that face to face conversation with a parent is always what, you know, helps you go.
And since you said that, and I think it's an interesting place, both from a parent perspective, but also from yourself, was there shame associated towards the exp the emotions and that's why you weren't able to talk to her? Cause it sounds like she's always been there. She's always been an open door for you about being able to tell.
Yes, it was, it was shame. And then I also didn't want to tell her because I was like, I didn't want to put that burden on her, even though I knew she was there for me, even though I knew I could talk to her, I was like, no, I'm not going to share with her. I'm just going to go through it alone. But she's always been there.
I just, I just didn't want to share it with her. And that's what a lot of kids do. They're like, okay, I don't want to show up my parents. I'm not going to do that. I'm just going to bottle it up all into. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And I think that that's where sometimes that isolation piece, like, you feel like there's no one to run to and that's where God can be found.
Right. Cause he is in the midst. He's always there. And I think, is there like a specific scripture or was there a specific moment where you recognized that you weren't alone, that there wasn't a void that he was been there and he's been there all along? Well, yes, because. It was when I went to commit suicide.
It was on July 14th, 2014, I believe. Yes. And then, um, I was like, doubting God. I'm like, no, I don't believe in you anymore. Why'd you make me like this? Why are you allowing me to go through this? And I was basically just fussing at God and having a tantrum, but he gave me like a huge reality check, like, you know, It doesn't matter what they say about you.
It doesn't matter what the world thinks about you, but it matters what I think about you. And that's really all that matters. And that's what really uplifted me. And then I also remembered the things that mom, my mom had told me at a young age that built me up for times as this. And, um, she just always built me up with inspiring words and also affirmations because that's how I learned.
And that also came back to my mind during that time. And I believe God used that to really get me back up and back together. Well, I know like our role as a parent is to train them up in the way that they should go so that they will not depart from it. And with my kids being little, I'm constantly thinking like how can I steward them?
And I literally just made a post, not even knowing that we were going to have this conversation with this morning in my group all around my husband's gone for the weekend. And I'm a solo parent right now. And I'm recognizing the vital role that I play in their faith and in the foundation of their access to the Bible and in the sound that's coming into their, your, their little ears, whether it's worship music in the car, whether it's a TV show, that's connected, there's something called super book.
If you ever look it up on YouTube. So good. And so like watching that on the way to school. So it is infusing in them. What are some real world applicable things and tools that they can use when they come into these hard situations? Um, but it's one of those things that as. We're moving so fast that sometimes the ones that we love the most that we want to impart all of those things to the right beneath our nose.
And we aren't recognizing, do you feel like there were certain signs that maybe your mom could have seen that you were just asking for help, but are, or do you feel like it was so secret? It was so secret because I. Did a good job of hiding it. I made it seem like school was great. I had a lot of friends and everything when it was actually the opposite.
So I always just did a good job at hiding that. And
I think for me, uh, as you're like talking and processing towards, like, where do you go with this? You've got the graphic design, you've got the YouTube development. You've got the social media. Do you have a bigger vision? Like, what is that? I really just want to go into the music industry as well, because music has always had a huge impact in my life.
And then also, I just want to go out to the world, to the nations, to speak to multiple youth and even some adults if they would want to come. But yeah, that's fine. I love that. Have you ever heard of gen Y gen Y. I'm not familiar with the name, but I'll have to check. Okay. I have to get you connected to them.
On social media. Jordan is the creator and founder of this, and they actually take this organization into, uh, high schools and middle schools and they have dance and music and sound. It's almost like. Uh, mental health break for the kids to come. They don't look at it that perspective. They think they're just gathering to connect based on other kids in the generation.
And while it's faith founded, they don't like same thing. They're not like preaching the gospel, but they're acting out. They're modeling the gospel in love and connectivity and doing it through the things that your generation and my generation loves. Sounds music, dancing, you know, like, uh, hip hop is all a part of it and break dancing.
Strobe lights and all of that. But I think that as you continue to go forth and thinking through what does that mission look like for you and how can I do this in a way that creates momentum? I think really connecting to the graphic design world, connecting to the social media world and letting people know that this can be a freedom and a space of peace and light is so awesome.
That's awesome. I love it. I'm excited for the music industry insight. Is that because you like to sing or dance or dancing? That's that's my thing. I love it. So cool. I definitely have to get you connected to some people. Do you know Bri smile? That sounds very familiar. Okay. Well, you got to see her YouTube as well.
She's a phenomenal artist and she is, uh, just a, an amazing woman of God that is all up in the music industry breakout right now. And I think that you would really like connect with her. So she has a passion for the youth as well. So maybe there's some collaboration opportunity. Okay. That's cool. Yeah.
Come on. God is so good. I did this, uh, I did this speech at a conference last year. I called it, embrace your ambition and it was all about getting lit. Right. And what I think is so interesting is that we think that the secular world can take control. From representation. It has taken control of language of music, of the things that are all created by God.
And to know that above all things, he still reigns above all things. He still has control power and sovereign authority. And so I'm just grateful to be connected to you. And I want everyone. To do the same. So obviously they can follow you on Instagram at Shannon Monet, they can follow on YouTube. Where else do you hang out?
Do you hang out? I'm like Snapchat and Tik TOK where everybody else saying now I have to get a Tik TOK account. Okay. But I do also hang out on Instagram. That's my main place. Awesome. Well, it's been such a joy. If there are any final words or heart messages that you didn't have the opportunity to share.
Is there anything you want to close us out? Nope. Not at all. You got everything. Come on, girls. So good. You guys. Thank you for being a part of the fit and faith podcast. This is in a very special episode with a very special human. I am endeared to call friend, and can't wait to see you thrive and grow and just continue to shine your light.
So brightly for the kingdom. Thanks you. Thank you.
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