Pandemic of Positivity with David Long
Today was full of positivity. David Long and Nathanael Greklek (who popped in a few times), share with us how the Pandemic of Positivity came to be and where it is going.
If you want a life that exudes joy and positivity, you want to connect with them. You can follow along by going to their website and checking it out!
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With 30 years of experience in the automotive industry, David has built an impressive career in dealership operations holding a multitude of leadership roles including General Manager, Owner and Operating Partner, Vice President of Operations, and Consultant. In August of 2019, David was hired by Henry Hansel as Executive General Manager for Hansel Auto Group in Santa Rosa, California. Founder; Pandemic of Positivity. Our mission is to create a movement that fills the world with more positivity, kindness, love and compassion. David is a skilled public speaker and travels the globe covering topics he is passionate about including training, leadership, and team development. David and his wife reside in Danville, CA. He has three amazing children and one beautiful grandson. David is an avid fan of the game of basketball and passionate about helping others.
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Show Notes: Pandemic of Positivity
So today was literally like positivity pockets all over this conversation. They like to call them positivity. Pucks. I don't know what that is. And do you want to blend it with pandemic? Pandemic of positivity? Yes, please. Okay. Today David Long and even Nathaniel, Greg flick, who popped up then for a couple of brief experiences within the show.
Yes. You'll have to tune in to know what I'm talking about, but we literally. So much goodness, not just about positivity, but light and love and leadership and how it's all combined together in this unique way that David Long has literally lived out his life, not just in the expression of his business, but also in his marriage and in his parenting experience.
And so we went deep, we went back in the day and we fast forward to what's to come. And we want to bring you along for the mission, this pandemic of positivity. I'm raising my hand. Taking all the sunshine with me. You guys know how I love to exude joy everywhere I go. So positivity enjoy are one in the same.
So this mission is so on my heart and I hope you join along. If you don't, you can get your badge and your pandemic of positivity puck by going to their website and enjoying there, if not hang out with us on clubhouse. Cause that's where we got to know what another thing God clubhouse. Right? All right.
See you guys.
This is your God wink. The moment that heaven says for such a time as this it's time to own your joy, prioritize your health, discover your wealth and exude your wholeness. It's time to become truly fit. However, this isn't a fitness podcast though. I'm a retired personal trainer and nutritionist, this isn't business jargon or tips and tricks to landing your successful passion project, though.
That's totally only with business goals. This isn't a quick fix health detox ploy though. I'm all for therapy and I love whole foods. I do have a Yolo side, sweet tooth though. This isn't confusing religious banter though. I'm an ordained minister, still figuring out the many things and facets and faces of Jesus.
It's really none of that. So I'm wondering if you're wondering what is this? Well, this is as an opportunity to join me alongside other big dreamers. Movers in lifestyle shakers, as we explore and share our messy comeback stories and discoveries with each of you fellow passionate seekers, the fit and faith movement was birthed through my own trial and error discovery of mind, body, and soul alignment, and to be totally transparent, my own entrepreneurial crash and burn experiences.
I've learned firsthand that being fit isn't about our physique at all. It's not about our qualifying abilities or titles. It's not about our potential. It's truly about our God gifted passions, meeting our purpose. You are one step away from achieving your idea, your dream, your calling, your purpose, whatever you want to call it.
And I want to be there for the moment that you say yes, in freedom, clarity, and confidence that you are living fully fit and who, and whose you were made to be welcome to the fit and faith podcast with me, Tamra and dress, there is no better time than now to get. Okay. All right. All right. You guys, I don't know how excited I am for this show.
I think it is always see my excitement, but me and David Long have been trying to have this podcast for months and we are so excited to be able to just showcase you. We were supposed to have Nate with us, Nate, Nathaniel, who's kind of your, your partner in crime on this pandemic of positivity. Maybe he'll pop in and surprise us, but if not, it was supposed to be.
It's so good to see you in finally put this together. That's great. I'm glad we were able to make it work. It's been a long time in the making y'all and the reason that we are connected and I feel like this is often how you guys are hearing the connection. So if you're missing the, the call to action, get on clubhouse, because this is how we got connected.
And I first experienced it through all of these yellow bags. That were popping up in the profile pictures and around the seam, it says pandemic of positivity and I, I'm not positive person at all. Can you tell I'm super lame? I am. Uh, I'm pessimistic all the time. No, I love positivity. So I want to hear all about this, but I know even before this existed, you have a long, beautiful career in automotive.
Speaking in, in helping people in leadership and team development. And so I just want to take this time to get to know you and honor you in this space. So thank you for being here. It's really my pleasure. I was looking forward to it. I hope Nate joins us. He is a character who share energy is you. You guys are one in the same.
I love that. So David, let's jump in. I want to hear, I want to hear the backstory to David law. Hi, I'm the youngest of eight. Then Lindsay in the house, my dad was no Glenn. One me. He was more like Ted Bundy, not really 10 funding. Please put that on a speaker reel for him. So I grew up, you know, like a lot of us, so people that are watching your podcasts, I know you have a great following.
So I'm really honored to be. Uh, I had tremendous dysfunction and I wear that as a badge of honor because it created the space for me to be who I am today and to parent the way I parent today and super grateful my mom and dad did the best they could considering their alcoholic and drug addicts and their mom and dads were alcoholics and drug addicts.
So the neat thing is the cycle has been broken. For sure. I just got goosebumps when you said. Super blast. Like I was writing this morning when I was journaling, what came up was I went from death and murder and suicide and a life that was just completely full despair to a life that's beyond compare. Um, and that was insane.
Came out this morning as I was journaling, like I'm like, holy macro-level. Full of despair to a life beyond compare. And, uh, and that's really kind of some that's insane. And Nathaniel came in and just to hear it, let's see if he can get him on here. Um, but that, I mean, I think that, I mean, that's definitely my story.
No questions asked me my story. We can see you intermittently Nate. We see you look a real sharp in your bow tie, but you're like frozen in a gorgeous smile. That's perfect. Stay like that. Okay. We're going to pop them off so we can stay focused here. But, um, I, I really believe that a lot of people and not everyone, this isn't everybody's story, right.
Um, this despair component. Um, but I do believe that. Speaking to that concept of cycles that are broken those generational chains that are no longer bound to your children and the legacy of those children. I know you have a grandchild as well, is it made me actually visualize the pandemic of positivity and how it actually is in the form of a circle.
Another cycle. But instead a cycle of him, a cycle of goodness, a cycle of wellness. And if we could take people off the cycle of brokenness, which I was a part of, I talk about it in my upcoming book. That's going to be launched later this year and, and project them, interject them in a fresh trajectory of positivity.
How much more beautiful the world would be. Huh? Let's go. Right. That's what we do. That's why we're here. So T talk to me about from that understanding of a life of despair to a life beyond compare, how, why, where did you go and when did you lead into this specific movement? Um, so I think that the pandemic positivity has been, um, created was created 33 years ago when I took that fork in the road that shifted from being focused on what was broken and wrong and started focusing on what was right.
And, um, and it just kinda came together during the pandemic. Right? As I saw a lot of despair that I could relate with, uh, and then in my personal story, we have five deaths in my family. My company had been cyber attacked and shut down until I paid a ransom. It was like a scifi movie. Uh, we had, uh, deaths and fires in Sonoma county that people lost homes, people as pets.
Lives. Um, and I woke up one morning during the election, that contentious election that we went through during the pandemic. And I thought we have to, I have to get a group of people that are like hearted to throw energy into positivity and putting things that are kind and thoughtful and compassionate and loving into our space and hope thing that it would spill over.
And it spilled over. Now you see all these little circles we call puffs. I love that positivity, pucks, everywhere you look. And I'm really blessed that we were able to throw some energy into it. Shifted some of the perception of the word pandemic there. Here we are so true. I love it. All right. We can see you.
Don't move. Nate. Tell us all the things. Welcome to the podcast. Hi. Yes. Sorry. I, uh, I'm currently coming from lake Placid. I'm from upstate New York. We're we're all the way up. So my service cuts out a little bit. I apologize. It was the last minute video. Got to go type of deal. So, uh, here I am. We're, we're moving and grooving, as you can see, you're on the journey with me.
Hello. We're glad to be here or on the ride. This is the thing about life, right? You say yes. And you don't know what it's always going to look like, but you know, if you can bring joy, like the two of you guys, you guys have electric smiles. It's amazing. Um, and I've, I've witnessed you from a far through clubhouse through video, through pictures.
Um, I know that you guys have something special and maybe. I would dare to say bigger than what you possibly imagine, and that's not only biblically founded, but also just from knowing my small community, um, what they need and they need all of those things that you're talking about. Kindness, positivity, thought, just generosity.
So tell, tell me, tell me, David, um, while our boy is frozen again, at least know it looks good. Right? Let's get a round of applause. If you're watching live and you skim frozen right now, it is a good, this is a good screensaver. Tell me from, from those components, you said it was about 30 years ago when this kind of burst inside of you, was that a, um, a faith experience?
Was it. That propelled you into this understanding what exactly led you? So my experience was super different because I really have this, um, difficulty accepting, um, Jesus Christ as my savior. I. Um, so imagine this. So on Saturday nights, the police ambulances would be there. And on Sunday I would hop on a church bus and sing.
Jeez, Jesus loves me this I, and nothing made sense.
So when I started this journey, it was hard for me to get back to that place, but it wasn't until I got back to that place, that things started to change from mega COOs bumps again. Um, and that's when I had, I went from hopelessness to hope. And the minute I had hope in my heart, I knew that my life was going to be different.
And I knew that I was here and that I've made it through all of that so that I could impact. I love all of these different languages. They're actually different than any that I've heard. And I feel like it there's nothing against people utilizing phrasiology, but, um, this is fresh. My lights just went off in my that's.
Awesome. All the tech, all the tech, I feel more holy now. I feel like a halo. Um, but no, I think that there's, there's so much depth to every component of what you're sharing here. And a lot of people who experienced that almost like that straddling of, I know this is good for me and healthy, but this is where, what I'm used to.
And this is what I know, and it's actually more comfortable. And that was my story for a long time, living in the shadows while also being a useless. And the shadows were the place that had more adrenaline. Um, the shadows were the place that I felt, um, almost more seen, which was a figment of my imagination, a thousand percent and enemy tactic to tell me that this is where I belonged when in fact I was meant to be in, in his loving arms, in his grace and in truth.
And in light here I am speaking of light. The light here. Right. Um, so I think a lot of people can understand that. What was the trajectory? What was the revelation? What was the one thing that you were like, this is what I need, or this is what God woke you up to woke. Stay woke as Glen always says, Hey, whoa.
So the one thing was, and this is a pretty personal experience was I was in my third treatment center. And, um, and that's when God spoke. He spoke to me through somebody that really resembled my dad, my physical father. And at the end of my dad's life, we became incredibly close, like hugging, kissing, loving, um, a relationship that I'd always longed for.
Um, and in my third treatment center, my primary care physician resembled him physically. And I was able to hear him in a way that I wasn't able to hear anyone else. And I was able to connect the dots that were always disconnected from me. And, um, it just became crystal clear. And from that point forward, I've started every single day for 33 years on my knees.
And I've ended every day on my knees. And it's been, it's been almost. Yes. There's. I want to unpack that almost, but I think, um, it's amazing how God knows what we need. And he, he rises to the occasion to meet it in a way that we couldn't even process. Right. He actually came in physical form, obviously it's Jesus, but he came in physical form.
Whether that doctor was a believer or not, he didn't need that. Right. He, God got to utilize him as a, as a resource and a tool to your testimony. Um, actually. Similar experience with the first pastor that I came to know when I was 29, uh, stepped into his church. And he, he just reminded me so much of my earthly dad and the things that I felt like I was lacking.
I think he stepped into, and it made me understand when people say, God, the father, that this was a possible that this was a tangible experience or expression of heaven. Um, and so I just love it. He uses people. He uses imperfect people every single day to expand somebody else's understanding of who he is.
I agree. I love that. I want Nate to talk, but I'm afraid he's going to drop again. Nate, we're talking about freedom and they drop again too. It's David's like backstory. It's like, it's literally the, the, uh, the dark places that he's sharing with us first, because I know positivity and having such a desire to bring that there has to be a backstory.
Do you have a backstory? What propels you to this? Well, uh, at 11 months old, I almost died on an operating table for open heart surgery. So that's. Um, but I mean, I just, I've grown up with this positivity from just the fact of gratitude of, uh, knowing where my parents came from and knowing it's a knowing God is, and knowing that, uh, of what he's done and at a younger age of actually coming to conceptualize the, the re.
of course, right in the middle of the good stuff. Go, go, go back, go back. Are you there? Yeah, we can't hear you. It's okay. You're you sound like you're in the matrix. It's like an actual, real life clubhouse experience. All right. I'm dropping you. You're going to have to come back. We love you. We love you. We love you.
Oh, my gracious. He was writing the good stuff. All right. I wanted to hear how he came to know God so young and what that, what that means to him today. So I want to unpack that. Okay. So one, you said that it's almost perfect. Not that I need to know what the almost is, because we know that perfection is a figment of our imagination and, um, only achieved, uh, officially in heaven.
Actually, I have a bracelet on that. My friend just got me and it's called pro it says progress, not perfection. Oh, that's something we say in recovery. I know. I would say actually I'm in a process and maybe you can give me feedback. I'm in the process of creating the subtitle to my book and I. I don't like to label people.
So even when you said, like I was in, I was in the treatment center. My mind immediately went to, oh, an addict. He mentioned alcohol. I'm assuming it's alcoholism. I don't know. I don't really need to know, um, drug addiction, but I feel like there's a ton of cultural addictions that are deemed, um, okay. Uh, and, and I believe in many ways I was, uh, societaly addicted to consumerism, to perfectionism, to achievement, to success.
Right. And, and those things. To the outside looking in or like, oh, that's fine. She's addicted to fitness. She looks good. No, no body image issues. Right? Personal experiences, mental battles that were taking place. And so while I never, um, have dealt specifically with alcoholism myself, I have been affected by alcoholism still am today, actually.
Um, so I'm just curious from this idea of addiction, how. Like this, this pandemic, I love this word. Phrasiology because it just brings so much life to what we've known in the last year. How does it, how does it parallel and how do you help people break free for you have it just from positivity. How do you break free from the addiction addictions?
Yeah, no, I never had anybody ask me that that way, but you know, I think as a society, we are somewhat addicted to. Um, finding what's wrong. I think it takes very, very little effort and it's comfortable and it's familiar and people have a propensity with our 2 million year old brain to, you know, be in survival mode and protect ourselves from San Fran tooth tigers.
Right. But, um, in that all being part of our makeup, I think the people that I've come in contact with me, for sure that forever, it was easy for me to. The, what was wrong in any situation. Uh, but it was more difficult and it required a lot of mental effort to find out what was right and the situation. And that's how I lead too, by the way.
So I have a few hundred people in my company and I think it would be really easy for me to walk around and find out what's broken and pointed out and coach people up on that. But it's been so fun. To be able to walk around and find all that's right. And I'm almost ridiculed and criticized for that. But I did that with my I coach youth sports too.
And when I do that, and it's not Pollyanna positivity, it's not ignoring the weeds, but the flowers and the, and the, um, people step into their greatness inside of that environment in a way that I've never expected. By coaching people up on their weaknesses, I've never experienced it. So I hope that answered your question a little bit.
It is, it really does. And I'm, I'm super curious about this piece from an entrepreneurship perspective, from leading a small team, um, at this point in my career and, and knowing the power that, and I say power, I don't mean that in like a pompous way. And I don't mean that in a control freak kind of way. I mean, it.
Service experience right? As the leader, you have a responsibility, let's say that instead of power to, to cater and to serve and to love on the people that you have brought into your vicinity, who are actually partnering with you in your mission, whether you're paying them full time, whether they're a volunteer, whatever that looks like.
Um, so I'm curious about this concept of leading out of positivity and knowing that the mental health piece for you. Has to be a consistent experience for you to be able to stay in that frame of mind, teach us a bit who, so it was a scary, um, I, I visualize walking the plank, the plank off the negative.
And just dropping into to faith and figuring out, because I didn't know where it would go because I had never, I was coached by the guy that would scream and yell and throw things at me. And, uh, and I responded to that. I can't see anybody yelling at you. It was like the sweetest just phase. I can't even imagine that prior athlete, like I didn't have a coach that nurtured me and told me what I was doing.
Right. Like I was afraid every day. Um, and in that fear for me, I performed really well in that environment, but what I found out, the older, I got, not many people are very few people perform well in that kind of a stressful environment. I think inside of that stress creates people to perform very poorly.
And I don't know, do you know who Sean acorn. No, not off the happiness advantage. Oh my God. You're going to love him. You've got to get them on your show. I'm going to write it down. Anyway. He was one of the first people that helped me identify that. If I could just always pick out the positive and just continue to focus on building people up and giving them a space to find their own greatness, um, things would be completely different.
And if I told you the results that I'm getting as a result of it, It is, although I was fearful and terrified to go there and thought, well, if I don't point out, what's not going right, then that's going to continue to happen. Well, that has not been the case for me. Wow. It's been the case for me is when I point out all the things that are great and use that as my leadership style and my mantra.
And I beat that from consistently, I get more of them. And the stuff that's not going well, but I would have normally said, Hey, don't, you know, that you should have, and that stuff just goes away crazy. And I never really thought about it or conceptualized it in this way though. I feel like, as you're saying it I'm exampling it and things that have happened is how parallel.
This is also to our intimate relations. I'm thinking of my husband, I'm thinking of my children. And, and when we give positive affirmations in that realm, how much better and more succinct we are as a unit. So it's, it's really, you're, you're saying you're doing this on a mass experience with hundreds of people, which is phenomenal, but really you're cultivating.
Being seen, known, and loved. And in that they're feeling trusted and therefore they then activate even further. You're really cultivating what I believe heaven would want to see in a family and a family unit. And, and you're creating it by positive affirmation. We know that no different than love languages.
You're giving, you're giving them this expression to be able to come to work joyful and actually want to have. Help in whatever capacity they have. Quick commercial break. I know I hate these things too, but it's so critical that you grow your business for God's sake. And I mean, that pun intended with all the love in my heart to get you from a place of ideation to activation, stop dreaming, start doing stand up, start saying yes to the call that God has on your life.
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And I say to hug your neck, see you there. So tell me, cause you're in the automotive industry. Um, I want to know what led you into that career, because I know a lot of the automotive industry does not operate on this well realm at all. So you're going to speak to all of these places. Do they reject it immediately?
Oh yeah, for sure. Best I'd beat to a completely different, I'm not in the car industry by the way. So. I'm in the people industry. Uh, and w and I, it's funny because the person that owns my company, we're very successful. We've been in business for 60 years when we first met and I told them my leadership style, and I told them what I found a good job looked like.
And I told them my experience with cars and my knowledge of automobiles. Uh, it's a miracle that I'm even here right now, because I don't know anything about cars. I have zero interest in cars, but I love people. And I love organizational leadership, and I love positive. So it's great because he, in the beginning he was like, well, why don't we, we coach them up on and why don't we really dig in and help them know that we can't have this happening anymore.
And I'm like, Henry, I love that. And that's your style, but that's not mine. What we're going to do is we're going to talk about how great we're doing over here, and we're going to use that. And we're going to grow from that experience. We're not going to shrink to that experience. And do you know who I'm Dennis Waitley?
Yes, I do. So he was somebody that impacted me. I had a chance to talk to him last week. Oh, are you on the sales call too? When he was around like the morning that they were doing his interview. So I was on one of them and he and I were talking and it was like the fact that I could talk to him how special it was.
Unbelievable. And Jerry Jim Polski and Dennis Waitley at the same time impacted my life. And this was back in the late eighties. By the way I had a street name of chemical. Dave
gives me some context to your situation I was introduced to, and I started this whole new journey and Jerry Jim Polski and Dennis Waitley were like my heroes. Uh, Dennis talked about. And the acronym for love. Did you hear that? No, I missed that. So, and it really ties into what you just said about you and your husband and the way I lead and my team.
So love the L stands for look for the positive. Actually look for it. Be purposeful and intend to find a positive music. It takes effort. Now the O is for overlooking shortcomings, right? It's super easy to find shortcomings. And the V is voice consistently voice. What's good. Like go out of your way to from and tell people what you find to be good.
And then he has consistently remember that it takes effort to find and do those things. So that's the acronym for love. And I really love when I hear it. 33 years ago, back in 1988. When I heard Dennis talking about that and Jerry talking about the only two things that really have as love and fear. And if we can focus on love, we can eliminate the fear.
And that's really where my whole leadership style has come from. That is incredible. You've written a book on this yet, so I have a book. Yeah, but it's selling related and it's called step zero. Is all about the things we're talking about today and is that out yet? It is not. It is soon to be out this year.
Maybe I would say no based on what I ended up going on. Okay. Well that is amazing. And I love that it's in the works. I always like to call people into something then that legacy just like Dennis Waitley did for us. Um, I was with Brian Benstock and Glen Lundy when. They heard him coming on to breakfast of champions and to hear in similar comradery is what you're saying, listening to him back in the day and reading the books and then to be fast, forward 30 years and experiencing him in that manner, it was almost like a childhood legend, right?
Like you're experiencing Michael Jordan and he was. So excited and he's like, people are quiet, like turning on the volume in the course, right? Like, this is amazing because I'm like thinking in my, in my perspective, who in my life have I. Allowed to have that much of an impact on me. And when I was young, if I was 30 years forward, who would that be?
And I cannot, I cannot think of somebody who has impacted my life like that. Um, and so I, in a reading context perspective, but these people that I'm surrounding myself with now, people like yourself, David I'm I'm perplexed by enamored by, um, great. Feel expanded by. Uh, and I think that that's an important lesson for people to know who are listening now and who will in the future is that we always have an opportunity to learn and more so importantly.
And in parallel to what you said, we always have an opportunity to. Um, and in that loving, we get to lead well better. Um, the question that my coach always asks that I feel like it, as you were talking about the two different styles between you and your partner is, is this question that it's not just focusing on the positive and completely writing off what they could be doing better.
Um, it's actually ends up illuminating. Oh, if this is so good, we want them to also feel the same way and us to have this same result over here. Um, it's almost like that osmosis experience of, of positivity in different layers. Um, but the question he always asked, and I'm curious how you all present this from a leadership perspective, he always says, what is.
What if you tried this, or what if this was the true solution or what if you took this lens towards that problem? And that has been, um, the positive shift in my perspective, that has helped me, uh, to, to play. I think would be the word I would use to play with problems rather than to shun from them. So how do you guys do from a leadership perspective?
I love that. Um, so my coach and I had that very same conversation this week. Like it's unbelievable more goosebumps before I really address that. Think about this is what I think about most people that I know, maybe everyone I've ever. Has an element of fear, right? So I don't know that I need to go up and point things out that are not right, because if people are coming from a place of fear, but they feel safe, they're already examining their shortcomings.
Not their, scotomas not, not the things that they're unaware of and they can't see. But I mean, if you have a job and you know, what a good job looks like, and I've set it up right. Where it's very clear, you know, if the bar's not being met or exceeded. And you are operating like everybody with a little insecurity and a little fear.
You're going to address that anyway. I don't even have to say anything. As a matter of fact, you're probably going to be harder on yourself than my comments could ever be on you. So to your point in what your coach said and what my coach said this week is it's a discovery. It's just a conversation. Let's talk about it.
What obstacles can I remove? What can I do to help? How can I serve you? And the person in that scenario is going to go to, I need this. I'm thinking that, and, and it might be best if we do right. And it doesn't require me to be that hard guy, that tough ass that I used to be. Right. So if I can spend all my time and energy in that place, that feels good, keeping people safe, but stretched.
And when I say safe, We're accomplishing things. I call it the unthinkable and not just because of what our market's doing, but we're outpacing our market 300%. Wow. Right. So when I think about beyond thinkable that we're creating in a space that people feel safe and stuff. I think this do two year, I call it my two year Petri dish.
I think experiment is working out. Wow. How have you been able to get coverage to this pandemic of positivity? Because I feel like it is, um, it is so new and so different than other leadership styles and other ways of just existing. Ha have you had much media coverage in this. You know, I have had a little, um, but I haven't gone out.
So I use like your bracelet talks about, um, progress, not perfection, which I absolutely love. I have a thought attraction rather than promotion. Right. It's been like, sometimes I'm going to be the only Bible that somebody reads. Right. So it needs to be attraction rather than promotion for me. And I know some people will promote more than they attract, but I prefer.
To, to do, uh, attraction rather than promotion. So in that way, like it attracted you. Right. And you're a, who set it up a huge magnitude. And I'm hoping that you spread the message. And I'm hoping that the people like Brian and Glenn that are friends of mine, they spread the message. And Liza Borgias is on the board and she spreads it.
And Joyce Farley is on the board and she spreads. So that's just, that's the only way I know to get the message out. But at the end of the day, I really believe if it's meant to be. It'll find a life of its own with just a little bit of love and encouragement from people like you. Does that answer your question?
It does absolutely does. And I think that there's like, uh, a momentum behind goodness and a swell and a surge that's taking place just in, in communities across the globe. But specifically I can feel it a lot in, in this revival. Standing, not just church oriented, but this, uh, eagerness that people have for something good for something light for something that doesn't weigh them down or hold them back or shopped or knock.
Right. We, and that's ultimately what is happening to so many people. And so, um, I just think that this is that concept of, for such a time. And that it's been deposited and simmered on and examples, um, through your life and through the people that you've led this long, it's going to take traction really quickly.
So I'm excited to partner in that regard and be there for that. My brand is rainbow. And I want to just own the is of God and everything that we do in positivity is surely a component of who he is. And it's, it's eagerness within everyone to experience it from a very young age. I mean, honestly, the four communication of, of words is a thing for children.
How do they respond to positivity? They respond when you give them that bright smile. And you're trying to communicate that. Sound and the Google guy guys. Right. And, and that's the positivity rather than the shaken baby syndrome, which is a drastic experience of I'd allow. It didn't mean to trigger anyone.
Um, but just the knowing that it positivity is, is even less about work. As it is like you're saying about attraction and I love, I just love the concept. I'm such a visual learner, so I'm giving myself all of these beautiful, um, almost like amoeba, like visuals inside of my head of what the positivity momentum could look like for a broken world, a broken a broken society.
Well, there is nothing decisive divisive about kindness, love about compassion and about positive. Right. If that can't unite us and give us something to focus on, that feels good and helps us become better. I don't know what. That's a mic drop. That's so much nothing divisive about this. My curiosity, as you were sharing before, knowing where you've been and knowing the leadership that you had in your life, who led you, like who was mentoring you in this process?
Was it simply a biblical, like holy spirit experience as you stepped into the becoming of yourself? Right? You know, I think it was from the purposeful selection of my inner circle. Right? So it wouldn't, it's from the books. I chose to read the videos I chose to watch the YouTube I in intake. Um, and that's what led me well, led me was I wanted to break the cycle.
I wanted it started by being the best parent I could be. Um, and I have three children, I think. Oh, and I feel a little emotional, but I think if you ask them, I think I've parented better than I've done anything in my life. And now I get a chance to be a grandfather. Yeah. And seeing that cycle broken and seeing them as whole human beings and not needing to be fixed is the brightest, um, spot in my entire.
So incredibly powerful. I'm curious. And you said that you, you had this incredible experience with your father before he's is he still working? No, he passed when I was 21. Okay. So you had already come into your emerging of who you are today at this point, or? Oh, okay. Oh, that was one of the things that accelerated me finding a new place.
Interesting. The reason that I asked specifically is, um, I've had this incredible experience in the last few months to have my mom come live with me, um, for some circumstances and things that she's walking through, addiction being one of those affected experiences in her personal life. And. To see her, see the home that I've been able to cultivate alongside my husband that is very drastically different than the home that I was raised in.
And I was raised in a very beautiful home and she knows this. She knows that I love her. And again, just like you honored your parents, they did the best that they knew how right. But to see her look at it from a different lens and see her evolve into her personal pandemic of positivity. Um, it's, it's a true treasure to witness that.
And so I think it's amazing to know that this cycle, while we think it's just generational in one direction can actually affect change to the generations ahead of us as well. Right. Not just behind. For sure. And the people that knew us then yes. Tell me about that. Cause I'm curious about, I literally thought about that already.
I'm like, I wonder what his childhood friends think of him. They don't even recognize me. It's kind of neat. So my oldest brother is my best friend. I mean, other than my son, my son and my daughter's best friends, for sure. My wife, best friends. My oldest brother said, David, and he was very serious and he's not often serious.
He's a real practical joker and he's, but he said, I witnessed firsthand the transformation and it's believable, like seeing it take place and he can't believe it. Right. So seeing what it was like, what happened and what it's like now, Has been, um, nothing short but miraculous. And it has very little to do with David and everything to do with the choices I made and having my God, my hierarchy.
A guide my steps every single day. I think that I, um, I experienced that firsthand, even when I witnessed my own self. I like can see myself pictures from when I was younger to pictures, to who I am now. And the massive difference. Um, you mentioned prior to us getting online, you're like, I love seeing you in pictures with all my friends this past weekend.
When I see myself in a picture now it's, um, I'd say, it's almost like I'm not looking at myself. I'm looking at the redemption that just is blanketed over my life rather than seeing Tamra. I seek God. And I that's my prayer for anybody who comes into experience with not just this, this experience that you're putting on, but any experience of a believer, right?
Um, it's, it's really that attraction quality I'm going to stick holds to that. Like that attraction versus promotion, I think is so powerful where you, when I saw. In your smile and how it impacted. Cause I know Glen well, and I know Brian well, and I think, um, Barbara and Jesse, might've been in the picture that I'm referring to, but knowing those three and seeing the light and the love and the smiles and the authenticity was awesome.
It was super. It was pretty magical. I I'm, I'm still enamored by it. And I know that it's just the beginning, which makes it that much more exciting. No different than, than what you have plans. I see you guys, you can't see this, but we see, we see Nate in the back end and he's still frozen, so I'm not going to bring him to, to the table.
I'm just going to have to bring him on for his own chow. It was intentional. It was a okay. We can, we can double it up. Right? Double, double the fun. Um, I want to say hi to him before he goes, Nathaniel. We love you, Nate. We love you. You're frozen again. So we'll do this again. When you're rooted in a location.
He's so handsome. I heard about his boom box and all the positivity that he brings everywhere. So it'll be fun to unpack that, but let's, let's stay focused on you. I'm David. I am first off honored by the time, um, investment and the opportunity. Spend with you. And I want you to be able to get other people into the experience of what you have that trajectory of where you hope to go.
I'd love to hear what's the vision. What's the big vision that you have as you're continuing to move forward into the next becoming phase or season of. So my big vision or the pan that yeah, your yours, it might parallel. It might not, but yours individually. Sure. So as I transitioned from this season to my next season, it's super clear to me that everything that I'm doing now, I'm going to be able to do more.
Right because I have more, right. I have more freedom. I have more, uh, access. So the neat thing is with people like you and the other people that are helped promoting what's going on right now, this is only a labor of love. There's nothing monetized about this pandemic and positivity. So when you talked about the circle, it's perpetual, right.
I don't see it having to end. And I see it being able to continue to perpetuate from generation to generation generation. My kids are already completely on it. Which is super cool. You have kids. It's so good. Yeah. I have kids and I want them to have that, that energy. I mean, I witnessed that firsthand and I think it's about the nurturing.
It's about the nurturing of people, loving people, the way that they should be loved, we just didn't experience it. So it is, feels new. It feels different. It feels almost sometimes uncomfortable, but then when you lean into it, you realize how great it feels, because it's not just how you feel when you lead love partner, create positivity.
But also what the reaction is, which is, I want to see it firsthand. I want to come and visit you and see your people dancing outside of your office. That's not normal, right? Like you.
One thing from a parent perspective that has given me so much joy. So our kids, they, when they go to any interact, whether it's school, whether it's a sporting event, whether it's the, a tournament, their job in their mind is to find somebody that needs love. Now, what that does for them is it takes them out of themselves.
Right. Which now they're not operating from a fearful, what are people thinking about me? How do people or perceive me, am I wearing the right clothes? What they get to do is be outside of themselves, important to somebody that needs it. So it's an absolute win-win. So as a dad, seeing my kids do that is the difference enemy of the pandemic positivity.
That's love that's compassion, and that's kindness, all rolled into one. And the side benefit is they don't have to be consumed with. At part that is that's the trajectory path, right? Like that we were never taught. We think of the American dream. We think of this, this race of perfectionism that we talked about before we think of the success patterns and it is all self.
Even this, this self love, um, addiction. I believe that that isn't not another addiction of illuminating self. Um, when in fact we should be illuminating the hymn that is within the self. Um, and that's what this is doing. And so cannot wait to teach my kids. You have like, you have a lot of books that you need to write.
Like you've not the one that's coming out, but then you've got the pandemic of positivity and then you have a parent's version. I need the children's book. We actually have a children's book author on. Right now, Blair, maybe she can pick it up and contract it for you. But I think that this mission is his legacy driven and I think it is carrying the heart of, of the father biblical lens, for sure.
Um, I know that he's going to continue to bless you as you propel, um, the momentum behind it, but I don't think that it's going to have to be of works to do it. And I think that's a really cool. Place to be in because oftentimes even in a mission that is a heart centered, God centered mission, you feel like there's a lot that has to go into it.
And I don't think that you're going to have that problem at all. I'm not feeling that's not my experience at this point. Yeah. It's re it's wild. I mean, do you know anything that's parallel to that? Um, no. Like the ice bucket challenge, right? Like those kinds of things get legs. They're real and they're impactful and people are, people can get behind that.
So that's what I think that's, that's why I think this has gotten life of its own. I love that so much. And I loved that challenge. I did it over my 18 month old in a pool with little kids and I have that video. It is on replay every time it comes around and I love it so much. Um, I am grateful to know you.
I am so thankful for this time with you. Um, let's see. I know, according to Daniel, he can't even. You're there you look amazing. You're coming in for the finale you're coming up. So give us a mic job. Got stuck. Um, be great. Do great and help one person every day. There you go. Boom. Boom. Oh, no, we froze. No, you did it.
Any final words, David? Uh, no, just, and it's, it's great to be here with you. I love seeing Nate, Nate, thanks for putting this together. You did a good job.
I love it. I try my best when I'm in front of a computer and I have everything going, make sure we are the same, the same. Alright, I'll make sure. And I'll have a green screen too, so we can just put it. This in the background, just screenshot this and we'll be fine. Okay. We'll start over for us. We're going to look really good on our social media posts.
I have a screenshot of this. You guys look great. I love it. He does. He does. You guys are electric. I love you. I'm so grateful to know you and we will be in touch. But in the meantime, you guys take these lessons to heart. And even as a child, we're supposed to act in childlike faith, find someone that needs love today and activate in that.
And if you're doing that, you're already taking part in the pandemic of positivity. Tell someone why maybe later, um, and just realize that a lot of these things happen in the secret place. It just made me think of this in prompt. You don't have to promote this. It's just going to be an attraction that people are going to want to take hold of.
So I love everything that you shared today. David, I'm excited to be with you in person one day, and same with you, Nate. We will we'll surely get together and spread the love, gives the best hugs. Yay. And that doesn't surprise me. All right. Yeah. I'll see you later. Thanks for being here. Have a great day, everyone.
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