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Mental Health and Philanthropy with Peter O. Estevez



There are times when you have conversations that you just know are God-ordained. Where there is a connectivity to storyline and connectivity in spirit. Today's conversation with Peter was exactly that. We both have the love of the Latino community. He's actually Mexican and my children are Mexican, since my hubby is half-Mexican.

Peter has a storyline, actually, of pain connected to that, and now he serves from a place of philanthropy, from a place of empathy, from a place of desired change - not only in the Latino community but every single person within humanity, around advocating for recovery, mental health, abuse, struggle, grief, freedom, fame, all of the things that are secularly sometimes normalized and also criminalized.

Peter and I are in cahoots when it comes to being able to take personal development and allow it to free us. I serve others through the lens of the one true love - Jesus. Enjoy this conversation around mental health and philanthropy with Peter O. Estevez.

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About Peter:

Peter O. Estévez was born in Mexico City, Mexico and migrated to the United States at the age of 10. Peter is an entrepreneur and partner in several companies in the energy, gas and oil sector in Mexico. Peter is a philanthropist and an advocate for recovery and mental health, as well as the writer and author of his upcoming book, “From Lies To Riches”. He is the host of the top-rated podcast, “Coming Clean Podcast”.

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Show Notes: Mental Health and Philanthropy

There are times when you have conversations that you just know are God-ordained where there is a connectivity to storyline. There is a connectivity spirit. There is a connectivity to revelation and today's conversation with Peter was exactly that we have the love of the Latino community. He's actually Mexican.


I just bore Mexican children since my heavy is half-Mexican. And. He has a storyline, actually, one of pain connected to that. And now he serves from a place of philanthropy from a place of empathy, from a place of desire change, not only the Latino community, but also every single person within humanity, around advocating for recovery, mental health, uh, abuse, struggle, uh, grief, freedom, fame, all of the things that are secularly sometimes normalized and also.


Criticized they're criminalized. And, uh, they take us to a place of shame, guilt and trauma, and y'all know from my own book, if you haven't yet read it, always becoming sex shame and love it. Newly came out on audible. So I'd love for you to listen. It's my voice and my energy. And so it brings life to the words in a new way.


But Peter and I are in boots when it comes to being able to take personal development and allow it to free us. I serve others through the lens of the one. True love. So you guys please tag Peter checkout, everything he has going on on social media and be sure to tune into his show and his upcoming event with my favorite Tim story and his new book coming out from lies to riches in January in parallel to that conference.


So tag us review here, and I would be so honored to share your review on the show in the upcoming week. I appreciate you guys doing. Part of the Fitbit community.


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I'm so excited to introduce you to Peter , who is not only an incredible entrepreneur and philanthropy. He is an author of an upcoming book from lies to riches. But one of my favorite things about him is he is a fellow Mexicana and he also is an incredible advocate for recovery and mental health. All of which, if you've been following the fit and faith podcast, our conversations we have here on the regular.


And so I am honored to share the space with you today. Peter, thank you for being here. Thank you. Thank you so much. And thank you for allowing me to come into your space and, and, and, uh, and share my story. Yeah. And that's honestly how I first got connected to you as we were listening to clubhouse, or I was listening to, you are sharing on clubhouse and I got to hear bits and pieces of your story, which I think are so impactful.


Um, and again, that connectivity piece. So I'll share a bit about, um, how I'm connected to Mexico, but after you have an opportunity to share about your, your migration here at the age of 10 and how that's affected everything that you've done thus far in life, and I know there's more. Oh, absolutely. You know, as, as, as you mentioned, you, uh, I migrated to the United States at the age of 10 years.


So with 12 brothers, 12 brothers and sisters, I'm one of 13, I'm a middle child, father and mom. Uh, and there was 15 of us. We moved into a two bedroom, one bath frame home, less than 900 square feet. And, you know, I often say that we were so poor. I couldn't afford a dream. Uh, but, but you know, in, in, in, in the midst of all of that, there was a lot of.


There was a lot of resourcefulness. Uh, there was tremendous amount of faith in the midst of all that this function, uh, I did come from a very, very dysfunctional background. There was a lot of sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, poverty, and a lot of the things that go with with, with coming in from a, from a disadvantage.


You know, a lot of poverty, you know, my father had a third grade education. My mother had a sixth grade education, so there were a, and they got mother was 15 and father was either 17 or 18 years old when they got married. So there were children racing. Okay. And they basically had a child every year, you know, those 13 children for, uh, you know, an expand of their marriage.


Yeah, absolutely. I mean, as you know, today I have a tremendous appreciation for their efforts and for everything that they did, you know what, at some point in my life I was not so kind, I couldn't. S I went through life growing up and I was trying to understand the dynamics of the household, you know, and trying to put in my head, you know, why would they have 13 children?


Why could they just have me? You know? So, so, you know, when you try to understand all those dynamics today, you know, I'm extremely grateful for the efforts that my parents put forward to raise all 13 of us. You know, the reality is that they could only give us what they have. Okay. It is my responsibility moving forward to make sure what I make of my life.


You know, they brought me into this world and they gave me an opportunity to be able to live in one of the greatest countries in the world. Even though I come from a country that has a lot of, a lot of richness and, and, and, and a lot of fun and a lot of Fiesta and a lot of. A lot, a lot of, uh, flow, uh, you know, Foxy stuff.


Right. But the reality that the opportunities that my parents provided for us being in America completely changed, uh, my life and the life of many of my sisters. But more importantly, it's given me an opportunity to become a better person, to be a better person, and to look at how can I go back into the communities that I came from, the communities that, that, that, that, that, uh, uh, that, that race me very early on, uh, how can I serve?


How can I make a difference? How can I make sure that there's not any other ten-year-olds immigrant boys that go through the same hardships that I did. And, uh, and that's basically where I'm at. Yeah, I think it's so powerful. I think a lot of people forget in that experience and they're trying to just remove themselves from it so much that they don't have the time that's invested from the mental health perspective or the therapy perspective to, to go back and actually have that sense of appreciation because there's so much trauma.


And I love that. You've made it through to the other side of that, but not only are you trying to just move on past that you're actually reaching your hand back and saying, how can I help others out of it? That's true. Well, yes, but, but it has not always been that way. You know, I think very early on what I wanted to do, I wanted to, from where I came from, you know, when I look, when I look at the dynamics of our household, you know, 13 children, two bedroom, one bath home, sixth grade education, third grade education, poverty, everywhere.


I came up, what I wanted to do was get out of there. Right. And I think that was, that was my first reaction was to, to escape. Eh, and to follow the money to chase the money, you know, because I thought that if I only had, you know, the, uh, the richness of success, I would be able to not feel the way that I felt as a young boy.


The reality is everywhere I went there, I was. You know, I had not addressed a lot of those issues and I wanted to numb them with alcohol. I wanted a number with women. I wanted them, it would more toys, more cars, more suits, more shoes, more ties, more and more and more. I was a more whore. The reality is that I had such a big hole in the center of my soul, that there was nothing that was going to fill it until I went back and I actually addressed some of those issues.


I was able to go back. And stop taking the little boy, the 10 year old little, uh, year old immigrant boy into the boardroom, into the marriage, into the relationship, into the partnership and sabotage and everything. I needed to go back, hug him, tell me what's so Kay. He was safe now and he could go, okay.


That was the moment that I set my set myself. My cell-free to be able to look at the world with completely different perspectives, to have a tremendous appreciation for what my parents did for me, regardless of where they came from and how they did it. And to also, and to also realize that now I have a responsibility, not only to create a legacy for myself, for my parents, for my children and for my children.


How old were you, do you mind me asking when you had that revelation or that like final need to go back and do the hard thing because. I did the whole coping mechanism, suppression mechanism, even the things that were societaly normal, it was okay to drink. It was okay to have sex. It was okay to do these things up until a certain point.


And then you realize, wait, this is actually not just affecting me. This is affecting everyone around me. What was that moment like for. Well, you know what we call the bottom, right? What we call the bottom and recovery. I had had a lot of bottoms. Okay. You know, I think I knew that I had a problem with alcohol and the first time that I was addressed, my son was six months old.


Okay. And it was one of those identities. You know, I did it again. I went to the party, I drank too much. I was inappropriate with my neighbor. You know, I did the tense, you know, I became promiscuous. I did all the things that I would normally not do as a human being. But whenever I let my guard down with alcohol or whatever, that part of me that was not such a nice person would come out.


And that was the very first time that I stopped drinking. You know, after one of those, if you don't do it, Peter, I'm going to get a divorce. You know, I had, I had reached the pinnacle of success, so I thought. The house, the wife, you know, the children, the business, uh, in ball, politically involved socially, you know, I was a great member of my community.


Everything, you know, I had checked all the marks. Okay. But I was still broke in, you know, the reality, uh, you know, the reality is that I thought that there was something wrong with me. Not that there was something. Okay. And after I had this particular incident that, um, that I was inappropriate at a party and my wife at the time gave me an ultimatum to either.


Shape of a ship up. , you know, I looked at my life and I said, why my son is six months old. I'm basically repeating the same cycle of dysfunction that I come from. You know, it may look different. I may be living in a 14,000 square foot home. I may be driving a Jaguar and not an old beat up station wagon.


You know, I may not have to your children. You know, this function is as functioned as its functions is a function. That's the matter how you dress it up. Right. So, you know, when I looked at my life, the first thing for me to do was, was you had talked to my therapist and my therapist at the time, and this was 22 years ago to be exact.


Okay. So I was in my, I was in my late thirties and a therapist at the time, told me, he says, Peter, you have one of the most acute, um, uh, alcohol issues that I seen in the last. You know, you're trying to run away from something that you're not going to be able to address unless you face the alcohol issue.


And, and, uh, he said, unfortunately, you know, there's not a cure that we know about for alcoholism, but there is a solution. The solution is a 12 step meeting, alcoholics anonymous. I went through my very first meeting and that was in 2000, uh, November, November 1st. Okay. And, uh, you know, it, it was a devastating moment for me, you know, because I, it was really funny.


I was, I was embarrassed to see who I was going to see in that room that was going to see me, but I was not embarrassed to make an ass out of myself as an alcoholic. Okay. And, uh, I walked into the room and what I realized that there was a lot of familiar faces. And I actually heard my story and that was the beginning of my process of recovery.


And, uh, I've been sober ever since. However, I did work a 12 step. Uh, uh, for a long time, you know, I worked the program for about two years. Then I moved from San Antonio, Texas to a call, an area called the Woodlands, just north of Houston, you know, kind of live it to beaver community, you know, jogging trails, lots of parks, you know, uh, lots of trophy wives, class executives, and, and, and, and, and, and I got sucked in right, right into the.


Okay. What I realized at that particular moment was that I didn't need alcohol to get drunk. I could get drunk online, cheating, controlling, manipulating woman. I see. Okay. I had not, uh, I had not addressed the th th th th th the root issue of my disease. Okay. And that was it. I had not healed the broken little.


Yeah, I was still carrying with him. He was looking for validation. He was looking for, for, for, for look at me without looking at me. Right. And, uh, you know, unfortunately in 2008, uh, after 14 years of marriage, first of all, my mother passes away. My wife asked me for the C for a divorce. I'm in the middle of one of the worlds.


We're in the middle of one of the worst economic crisis. Uh, that we, that we had gone through in our generation 2008 economic crash, this, uh, my father passes away six months later, I'm losing businesses, you know, and I find myself becoming a single parent, you know, and seeing my happy healthy six year old, little boy broken gaining weight.


Uh, with no self-esteem, uh, sick as a clues in his room, gaining an eating. And that was all he was doing. And what I realized was that I was committing the same type of abuse of my parents had done to me know. Just in a different way. I basically married my son and I looked at his life and what, what his lab was looking like.


And I realized that it was not, it was just what I was doing, that I needed to be a better father, that I needed to be a better neighbor than a BT. I needed to be a better man, a better brother, a better husband, a better friend, a better member of my community. And I literally went back into a 12 step program.


I started working the 12 step program, you know, I realized that sobriety stops the drinking. Okay. Recovery. Recovery is, is where you really are able to dig deep into, into, in, and to be able to take care of the soul, mind, body, and spirit as a transformation of your soul by Marty and spirit. But, but, but there's something more that has to be done and that's something has to come from.


You know, there's not a cost of program or a recovery program on an AA meeting that is going to give you all the solutions called the solutions, the personal growth, the personal, uh, growing the personal development, the emotional development has to come from you. Okay. And I started diving in really, really, really deep into what is it that I'm doing or not doing that I need to do to be a better person.


I literally got into the computer and Google, how do I become a better. And what popped up for the very first time was my introduction to a personal development with a platform called my Malley. I don't know if you're familiar with mind valley Christina lake county. And they had people in their platform like Jim Kwik, like Michael Beckwith, like Nicole's like many incredible thought leaders that do.


They are my friends that had been on my podcast. And, uh, and I started learning from them. And I started learning is that I had not. About before, you know, I started hearing about compassion, you know, you know, for a long time I thought that the solution was for me to chase the money. And if I've chased money and accomplished the money, I accomplished everything that I wanted, but I had accomplished all of that and I still felt broken.


You know, I still felt broken. And when I started doing the work, doing the serious work, you know, the prayer, the meditation, uh, the, the, the, uh, uh, taking different personal development courses, you know, the, the exercising, the being a member of my community, really from, from a completely different perspective, my life changed.


My life completely change. It's so wild to me. Like the, the moments in time where things kind of align. I was just actually on a call with edgy, who was one of the founders of mindset. I had a mastermind this past weekend. I didn't know anything about it. Um, I know all of the personal development junkies that you could possibly imagine.


Cause I love that industry so much, but I think what's really interesting about it is that oftentimes things like sobriety, things like a, uh, they, they feel like a tool or an agent that. Um, a stigma, right? Like there's a stigma. If you're going into AA, you were already feeling this sense of like, what are people going to think of me when you went into this?


But when you go into personal development, people are like glorifying the fact that, oh, wow, you're doing this, this awesome work. And I wish that there was like a component. Synergy in those two spaces because I really value the connectivity of both. Uh, absolutely. And that is exactly what was missing for me in the, in the 12 step program in the AA program, was it, at some point I find myself in a meeting room, hearing the same stories over and over, but not seeing a lot of growth in that.


Evolution within the same group. And what I also realized is that many of those stories were not being shared outside the rooms hands. The fact that they're anonymous, right? So, uh, you know, there were nine within the rooms and I thought to myself, wow, this is very interesting. If we are, if we are supposed to, you know, one of the steps is to take the message to other alcoholics is still.


We'll take them as a chapter. Other people that still suffer well, there's a lot of people that suffer and it's not necessarily about alcohol or drugs or addiction. Okay. There's mental health issues. There's people that suffer just because they're alone. There's people that suffer just because, you know, they, they, they don't have a social circle.


There's people that suffer because they're poverty, you know, there's a lot of issues. And I thought, you know, Uh, there's a lot that is not being spoken about. There's a lot of things that are not being said. And I started my podcast as a result of that. It, but it was, it was part of my journey when I was, when I actually felt the sense of freedom that I could talk about my issues that I could say, yeah, this happened to me, but that's not who I am.


Okay, this is, you know, this is where I was born and this is where I come from, but that does not be, find a person that I want to become. I allow it to define me for a very long time, because I did not know how to behave outside of that circle. The reality is that I was an imposter where I was, I no longer belong there, but I did not know what to accept my new fond success.


I did not know how to access. The love and the compassion, how well, how well I was being welcome in society, you know, because I was not accustomed to that type of treatment. It was not until I did the work that, that, that, that, that, that clear my head. They gave me, you know, th th they gave me the vision to be able to accept that, that.


That, that, uh, as long as I take care of myself, I'm able to take care of others. If I'm tending to what I call my five pillars, the physical, the mental, the emotional, the spiritual, the financial on a daily basis that I'm, then I'm operating from a single state of consciousness. I am hearing in the present.


I'm not time-traveling and I'm able to see what the world is all about. I don't have to imagine this. I don't have to think about this. Clear. I have like clarity to make the choices that are going to lead me to live the life of wellbeing, to be a service to myself, to my community and to. So incredibly powerful.


And I feel like that alignment piece, right. I talk about vertical alignment first before horizontal alignment and coming into the understanding that like, once we get that mind, body, soul connectivity, that sense of self-love because of the love of the father, our creator. Whoever that God is to you, then you're able to then pour out with an, uh, an effervescent and energetic flow, because you're now just a conduit versus feeling like the world owes you something.


So we need to take something from the world. Absolutely, absolutely. And you know, that was, that was part of my challenge very early on. I felt on jest, I felt like a. Okay. Instead of, and I needed to become the Victor in order to be able to, to receive and to be able to, to, to, to, to give back instead of taking, you know, for a very long time, I felt like I gotta take, I gotta take, because I lived in such a state of scarcity.


I lived in such a state of, uh, of, of, of, of, uh, uh, poverty, you know, eh, when you live in a state of survival, Okay. You don't have time to appreciate anything. You have to exit that state. You have to become present and available to know what the world is really all about and what's available for you. Yeah.


And I think there's a component too, and I'd love to hear your processing of shame in the, in the regards of the way or the actions by. You chose to live right where there's a component where our childhood, it's not our choice. Like we're often in those situations based on, um, just situational. And then eventually it becomes our choice to live in that space, which then becomes shame.


Um, and I feel like shame is one of the root causes that people are able to stand in the truest identity of themselves, or be able to love themselves. What is your processing been with shame? Well, you know, I come from a, from, from, from a sexual abuse home. Right. You know, I was sexually abused with my other brother, my father abuse, many of my sisters, it was not a pretty situation.


But the reality is that that I think all of us in a circumstance like that go through a different process. You go from, from being the predator, to being the victim, to becoming the participant. Okay to becoming the survivor, but you want to become the advocate. You want to be able to talk about the issues you want to be able to bring them to the forefront because of why she bring them to the forefront.


It loses a power that he has over you, you know, for a long time. Part of the issue that drove me to drink in the draw, me to shame, to draw me to feel like to fear to securities is that I felt dirty. I felt that everybody knew what had happened to me as a young child everywhere I went. The reality is that no way.


No one knew. And, and, and once I share my story, the people that, that, that listened to my story, heard my story. Either sympathize my story. Or there's are there shared a story? I gave him the power to share the things that they have been holding back that was also causing them to feel the same way that I felt just it may be a different circumstance, but you know, it's been a process.


It is, is, is bringing a long, long, long journey. I didn't start doing this work until the last 12 years, but I can tell you. That is the best in that I ever then. And probably, probably some of the, some of the very simple tools that we have available to us. You know, the prayer at the meditation, the journaling journaling is so powerful for me to be able to get that dense out of my head, put it into paper, allowed them to lose a power instead of, instead of circling around my head.


You know, I remove them. They're out of there. They're gone. Okay. I empty myself to be able to receive the positive energy instead of being stuck in this negative energy cycle. Yeah. And I think too, when you get it out of your head and then has the power for somebody else to dissect, is this true? Or is this a lie?


Right? And so it's almost like a really healthy activity to just deposit whether you're writing the line or not, as it almost comes out of your fingertips, you're a recognized. I would never say this about somebody else. This there's no truth in this statement whatsoever, but it's what I am currently cycling through my head, which then puts me into a corner, which in the only way out is we feel like the way out is just like, as we were, when we were a 10 year old child, which is to choose things.


Are not fully in health, but are in survival. And I feel like this society as a whole and you, you can partner with me in this perspective is when you come into these revelations, when you come into this truth of your identity and the wholeness ability of your identity with. You're able to then look with an empathetic lens to everything that's happening in society.


I remember sharing when I was first sexually abused publicly, and I'm really having a fear around what will this, what will people who know me think what will my. I say, what were all of these things? And ultimately came back and instead of cycling through their perspectives, what will this do for me? And what will this do for the person who was standing in the same shackles?


How can it help free them into a space of, of living the life of wholeness and identity that has nothing to do with that victim mentality? Absolutely. I think that the moment that you disconnect yourself from, from, from the victim mentality and, and, and when you start thinking of how is my story going to help someone else you take yourself out of the question, you take yourself out of the selfish.


Okay. And I think a lot of times as, as, as a victim, because we have not known how to cope with this, uh, we, we are in a state of selfishness, right? So, so we worry about how we feel, but when you let go of that, when you're able to let go and say, how is my story going to impact somebody else? How am I going to change lives?


How am I going to make sure that I break the cycle? You know, in my case, when I saw my son going through a different type of stuff, Okay. You may have not been sexual abuse or emotional abuse, but I was still abused him to a certain degree by creating an environment that he was not equipped to handle.


Right. It has a parent. I have the responsibility to provide the safest and best possible environment for him. Okay. So I needed to become more active. I needed to become more aware of his needs and his feelings, his emotions I needed. I needed to stop raising him. Like I was. Okay. And I needed to come down to his level and to address his needs.


Okay. Instead of me trying to address my. And, and, and, and wonder how are my needs, why, you know, I, you know, in the case of my parents, my parents felt, you know, just, that's just the generation that they suffer. So it was okay for me to suffer it to a certain degree because they, you know, they walk, you know, twin, um, miles each way, uphill, both ways.


Right. So, you know, they felt that. That gave me a certain in that gate, them in certain Teitelman to make sure that I suffered to a certain degree, that it was okay. Okay. Well, that's not the reality. The reality is that as parents, we have responsibility of creating the best environment possible for our children, regardless of what our financial circumstances are.


But we also have we, how, how so have to, to extend that into society, we have a responsibility to be the best citizens possible and to provide the best environment possible for us. And when we do that, it we'll disconnect that of ourselves. We become better people and our life gets better. Yeah. And I, you know, sexual abuse specifically and understanding this from a philanthropic lens, even in sobriety or alcoholism, also something that I handle and have seen generational bondage if that's happened.


So it goes into, you know, have a, a sober home for our family. With that intent that we don't want that to be our cycle because we know it's possible. Right. I think of the sexual abuse, a one in four and that 80 plus percent of that one in four who have been abused, it happens with somebody that they know like and trust.


And so there's all of these pieces to the puzzle that are so broken and that empathy that is equipping us to then serve other people really does allow us to stand outside of self and stand in a place of true service.


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I'm curious with your ethnic background and being from Mexico, I'm married into the Mexican Familia and I'm so grateful for the heritage. That's cultivated in that space. And every time I go to Mexico and I see my grandparents and family that lived there and see the, the variation between how we live here in America and how.


There, does it give you a heart to like serve your ethnic group or serve back there in another country? Or where is your philanthropic lens really fall? You don't mind? My, my, my, my admin is to serve humanity. Right. Uh, but I realized that the many of the issues I surfer permeating my commuter. They permeate and in disadvantaged communities, it doesn't matter what ethnicity you are.


Okay. They're more common in poor Latino and African-American communities. And again, just by the sense of that, this function, you know, I think, I think there's a sick sense of comfort in, in, in what I call this functional. Okay. There's a, you know, it's it's is, is, it's almost like you overlook how sick incestuous it is, but it's dysfunctional.


Love is still love. Okay. I don't want that kind of love. I want healthy kind of love. I want unconditional luck. And so, so to go right back to your. I see that that permeates more my community. Uh, I seen it that he has gone on through generations, my heart, and my passion is to be able to educate children.


They have less opportunity, uh, in, in are more prompt to become victims of those types of environment, because it apparently permeates in lack of education. It permeates in, in, in disadvantaged communities. It permeates. Okay. When people have a good social, uh, background, when they come from a decent economic environment, from the one where they come from a dish, uh, a, an app, an educated environment, this.


Lesson, because you're talk about them. You know, I thought my son very early on that there was an important and education. There was a incredibly important communication and there way new product incredibly important in the lack of secrecy, there is no secrets. And I told him very early on, you know, because.


When we do not pay attention to our children at a very young age, we, uh, are creating, uh, any environment where they are going to seek to trust someone else other than their parents. And if he created a safe environment at home and you don't permeate secrecy, you don't permeate this function. Okay. This tense, you know, this type of sexual abuse, uh, drug use, uh, alcoholism, all of those things.


Okay. The reality is the most people that fall into addiction, depression, alcoholism, sexual abuse is because they're looking for some type of attention. Okay. Unfortunately, there's how was a perpetrator on the other side, they're just looking to gift the wrong kind of thing. Okay. But when you have an open line of communication, uh, where your children, you listen, those possibilities and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, you know, my heart is to be able to be a greater service to anyone and everyone, but I haven't deep compassion for my community because that's where it came from.


And that's where I continue to see. Uh, I still have siblings, brothers and sisters that think like my parents did that operate in the same function and mentalities. And my parents said they still stated that cycle of dysfunction. And I know I can't change everybody. Okay. But I know that if, if, if our message gets across and we impact a generation.


Uh, you know, it's, it's a, it's, it's a domino effect that is going to multiply and affect many other generations moving forward. Yeah. This is so powerful and it's interesting because there's people. And all different genres, backgrounds, even, um, different age sectors and generations that I know we're on the same pursuit.


For instance, I have a gal locally who actually just passed that her legacy is living on through her nonprofit and the nonprofit is called stop abuse foundation. And the intent is to go into schools and infiltrate. The space with a life-sized puppeteering experience that teaches children how to say no and how to understand that their body is their body.


And it's not meant for other people. And they've partnered with local police precincts in order to stand kind of on call that at the end of these presentations, kids are welcomed to come up and share with a trusted adult and actually put hundreds of people behind bars in our local community with this initiative.


And the intent is to bring it to the nations, to be able to allow children to have a voice, because that's ultimately what is stripped from kids is their voice because of that sense of secrecy and that sense of guilt or shame, or even sometimes it's, it's done in a space of trust because they do know, and like them, they want to honor the request of that person that they love having no idea that it's actually causing, you know, innate trauma that can last like it did for you and myself decades to come.


Absolutely. Absolutely. Yeah. So I just think it's powerful. So when you are actually putting initiatives to play, and I know you're a multifaceted entrepreneur, how do you actually show up in the world like today? What are the different initiatives that you're working on and how can we as a community help get behind those?


Well, thank you so much first and foremost, you know, obviously. What am I make us biggest platforms that I have right now is my, my, my podcast, which has racially shifted from coming clean, which was our main focus, was addiction, recovery, mental health. And we shifted to what I call bringing together thought leaders from across the world to be able to create a platform in a safe space.


To, uh, to also give solution-based interviews, right. Uh, people need today's about finances, about growing, about evolving, about personal development, about mental health. So there's a lot of topics that they need to be, to be, uh, exposed to. Right. Uh, where are multi-dimensional? So there's there, there there's, there's, there's a lot of different topics that we've, that we're bring to the forefront through the podcast, but, but my most important initiative right now in.


I believe that we are going to make an incredible impact and is, and is targeted towards the Latino community is our upcoming summit. Uh, it is a first ever, uh, leadership and personal development. COVID summit geared towards the Latin community. Now this is to the English speaking Latin community in America.


And I have partnered up with, with Tim story, who, you know, from club house and Selena Bella som, and we are having the first event on January 15. And that event we anticipate anywhere between 150 to 200,000 people from across the world. We're doing this event at the worry studios. This is a very, very first time that a, a, a leadership and personal development global summit in English for this, for the Latin community has, has ever been done.


Why is that? And why am I doing it at the worry studios? The awardees, the warrior studios. This is a, it's an incredible facility. I'm sure you you're. You're familiar with it as 360 degrees for facility led walls. You can have a two-way communication with your audience is SLIFE. Okay, so, but it's just like, they're there with you in the room and, and we want to breathe, be able to make it accessible to every income graphic and Everett demographic possible out there in the community.


They have never been exposed to personal development. The reality is that, you know, personal development has, has, has gone mainstream, right? It has, it has become digitized, democratize at the monetized. So it's available to a lot of people, but there's still a tremendous disconnect between. There's a cultural disconnect.


You know, I can't, I can listen to Tony Robbins, which I've been to many of these courses and many of these seminars. I can listen to Brian, Tracy. I can listen to John Maxwell. I can listen to John Ashraf and many of the incredible thought leaders. They have paved the way personal developments, but there's still cultural.


There's still cert essence that they don't understand. You know, it's not, not anything different than, than an African-American then you and I trying to understand the Afrikaan right, which is not going to understand that because it's not something there's not an activity. And it is a sinked in, in the Latin community.


There are certain things, jokes, isms, sayings, customs, beliefs. Religious beliefs that don't translate when you, when you are trying to teach somebody to speak, uh, to, to, to, to understand something you don't. I have, I bedded the personal depends on space as a student for the past 12 years. And I have yet to hear somebody that sounds like me speaks like me looks like me or has the color of my hair.


Now, this is not about diversity. Don't get me wrong. This is about being able to understand the culture and being able to deliver the message that penetrate the culture. And it makes a difference. And if I can compare it to anything that can compare to what Tyler Perry or Oprah have done to the African.


Uh, African American communities that have been able to showcase the issues that have impacted their communities. And by exposing a lot of those problems in a positive way, either through comedy or education, they have been able to move those generations forward hundreds of years. Okay. A much, much further advanced the African-American community is much further advanced in the education and wealth and, and personal Velma that the Latino community.


Okay. And it is only because they had had incredible leaders that took a leadership role and they decided that it was time to make an impact of their communities. Well, I decided it's time to make an impact in my community. Tim's story decided it's time to make an impact of that community. And Selena has not the same.


So together we are creating this, this incredible global summit that, uh, that feel that is going to be able to, uh, identify. Educate transform and empower personal development leaders that can then go back into the community. And our goal is to be able to add back a hundred million people by December 31st, 2028.


I know what the issues are. I know what the problems are, but more importantly, we know what the solution is. If the solution is personal development education and bring it to the forefront and democratize it, the monetize, it digitize it and make it available. It's so incredible. And I feel like it's a component and I've seen this time and time again, when someone has an unlock in the personal development space, that often leads to like a self-awareness of purpose.


And they're like, wow, I can actually stand in purpose on purpose with purpose because I have a sense of authority. I have a sense of confidence. I have a sense of awareness of the communal connection to our greater. And then after purpose is where I love to come in. Is this connectivity to entrepreneurship?


And I think that's really where my heart has been drawn to. Um, the Latino community is this knowing that I see he's incredibly talented creatives, incredibly and talented artists. And they're, they have such an incredible work ethic outside of any work ethic of an American I've ever seen. I mean, my grandpa literally sweeps his entire house every single morning.


Paul, you just did that yesterday. He's like, oh, this is my daily chore. You know, this is what I did. But their work ethic is absolutely top notch. And I think that if we can parallel self development, connect it to their purpose and then bring in the tools for entrepreneurship, it would literally change the globe in so many ways.


And I'm proud of you set that because the education component has to come from. Okay. Instead of the, instead of the, the, the entrepreneur entrepreneurship component. Okay. If you, you know, it's not different than me, I'm, I'm a greatest example. Okay. My story's not unique. My story is a story of many. I just happened to talk about it.


Okay. And bring it into the forefront has allowed me to experience more stories. The resonate I'm very similar to mine, but here I was a, a, a young immigrant boy. That wanted to run out of poverty and figure out because of the resourcefulness that I saw in my community, how to work hard, make a lot of money.


Okay. But I still went on and carry a baggage of problems into adulthood and that I could have saved myself a lot of headaches and I could have paid less people. Had I known how to address those issues. Okay. So, uh, if I was to say, PJ seminar on how to make, uh, you know, how to teach you how to make millions of dollars.


I would probably have more people sign up for it. But the reality is that, you know, in most cases we don't have business problems. We have personal problems that we bring into the business. Okay. And if we are able, and if we are able to address our personal issues and show up holding company, Then we can complete whole, a whole bunch of different things.


Come on. This is so good. And it's so true in both of our stories, parallel to that revelation because you can have all the money, you can have all the fame, you're going to have all the things. And when you're still living void and broken, You cannot serve from a place of gratitude. You can't even love yourself in the experience that you're having, because you're not even present with the experience.


Absolutely. Oh, so I have like a methodology whenever I'm coaching and people come in because they think they're going to take their business idea and they're going to cultivate it into the business to, and make the millions. And so often I come in and they're like, kind of. It's great because we're actually going to do a little personal development first.


Like let's figure out how is your head? How's your heart, how they get the therapy. They get the life coaching before they ever get the business coaching, because if their identity is not intact, they're going to serve out of that place of brokenness. And that's where we are honestly, in the world today and why there are so many, you know, spiraled experiences and, and broken systems because it's just a bunch of broken people, breaking people.


And we have an opportunity to do it in another. Well, and I was one of those broken people, breaking people for a while. Yeah. And I think you standing up in that ownership and understanding through this personal development lens, maybe there's a bunch of different hooks and ways that you can market to like come in and understand how to make millions effectively.


Right. And realize it's actually all about personal development. So when I have entrepreneurship events and Tim is actually speaking at one of my conferences next year, it's a faith and business conference and I've had a lot of people question. How, why would you even put the faith piece in, why don't you just like have a church experience and then have an entrepreneurship ship experience?


And I'm like, because you have to bring that wholeness together for it to actually effectively work because good money in the wrong hands can do a lot of bad things, but good money in good hands can do incredible things and change. Absolutely. Absolutely. You cannot have said it better. And we see that over and over and over and over, you know, fortunately.


Um, we have people like grant Cardone and a lot of incredible business leaders today that are doing incredible things. But a lot of it is if you look at their components, if you look at their values and their principles, there's any emotional development component there. And there's a personal development component there.


And when you marry the three of them, entrepreneurship, emotional development, uh, uh, personal, personal development. And of course, Okay. Uh, religion, community, whatever spirituality, whatever you want to call it. Okay. You have an incredible recipe for incredible success and happiness and a peace of mind. It brings me back to Tim's like miracle mentality, right?


I think it's so powerful. Peter, you've been absolute joy. I am so grateful and indebted to your bone robility but more so what you're doing with that vulnerability and changing the world, I am excited from, for your book from lies to riches to come out. Is that going to be out before the conference or we released it at the conference.


What did I do? The marketing side of things. Really, really amazing. I would love for my community to be there. I will surely be sharing with family and friends and my community here. And I want you guys to go listen to the Peter oh, esta vez show. That's a top rated podcast and be sure to connect with him on social media.


He comes on clubhouse sporadically. So be lucky and join him on a Peter STV show.com. Here's there any final words that you have for the fit and phase committee? I, I w I want to thank you. And I want to thank you community for allowing me the space and the opportunity to share my story and my message.


Thank you so much. Absolutely. We will see you in January at your conference. Thanks again.


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