• Tamra Andress

3 Ways to Hear from God with Valarie Reynolds

God is within her. Yes, that's her newest podcast title, but she is not new to the podcasting world. In fact, she's been taking you on a journey Beautifully Enough for the last several years, and she is a fellow network marketer to many of my community members. Valarie Reyolds is a lover of God, a coach, a wife, a mentor, a mama, she loves coffee, and she's going to be your new bestie when it comes to truly opening the Word and learning something new. She talks in this episode actually about the three ways to hear from God, and they are maybe not what you expect them to be, but exactly what you need to know.

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Show Notes: 3 Ways to Hear from God

God is within her. Yes, that's her newest podcast title, but she is not new to the podcasting world. In fact, she's been taking you on a journey beautifully enough for the last several years. And she is a fellow network marketer to many of my community members and she is a lover of God. She's a coach and a wife and a mentor and a mama.

She loves coffee, and she's going to be your new bestie when it comes to truly opening the word and learning something new. She talks in this episode actually about the three ways to hear from God. Maybe not what you expect them to be, but exactly what you need to know. And additionally, she is unpacking not only her personal testimony, but the testimonies of others, others who have had to change their idol ship to the one that.

Got to the keen to ABA and get rid of the things that were serving them previously and show up to shine and ignite and be a flame of flame. Unlike any other flame of flame only ignited by the fuel of the holy spirit. And so it was a gifted time. You've got to go follow her podcast to God is within her.

And currently we're running every review and testimonial experience. Christmas bundle. And so I am excited for you to have the opportunity to go and follow and subscribe and review and tag and do all the things that we're asking for over $1,250 in value as a Christmas present, perhaps it's yours. I would love for you to just submit your energy, your light, your love, the feedback that you have from the different spaces that we as a company and I, as a human show up for you every single day of the week in one way, shape or form.

And so it's. To serve you in a fit and faith podcast. I can't believe we're nearing the end of the year and the season four premiere of our show in the meantime, stay tuned to Valerie rentals and yeah, go follow her right now. You're not going to be, sorry. God is.

Welcome to the fit and faith podcast fit is an acronym representing founders, innovators, and trailblazers who are looking to live a life fully, fully, authentically, and truly fit a space for us to connect on the raw real stories of mind, body, and soul alignment of entrepreneurs in kingdom leaders. I'm your host, Tamra and dress.

And this podcast, isn't like the cookie cutter interview experience. I've been coined the entrepreneurial rabbi. And so we do go there unscripted, no matter how far wide, deep or high there is. My desire is to see people rise from the inside, out, into their greatest calling, by sharing their truest stories.

Talents. As a purpose activator and brand builder, I believe our successes and failures are derived from who and whose we are not what we do, but strategy and vision are equally as important to the mission. So let's cut to the chase together and get fit in faith.

Yay. Yeah, everything went well. I don't know what day. That was. Awesome. You got a surprise video of yourself at the end? I was surprised there is joy. Y'all were so excited to be here today with the one and only Valerie Reynolds. If you have not yet got connected with. I'll be honest. I really haven't either.

And so while I know her podcast and I know she's an incredible business woman and network marketer, and she's just passionate about God, we are sisters already. And so I'm excited to unpack who you are, whose you are we already know. And so thank you for being here. Yeah, thank you so much for messaging me.

Isn't it crazy how I just love that social media can connect us in so many different ways. I know that it can get a bad rap and it takes her. Sometimes it can take our joy and it can make us compare each other. But at the same time, if it's used correctly, it's such an amazing tool that we can use to connect and grow.

And I just, I love it. And I think that this is amazing that we get to do stuff like this who would have thought I know, I completely agree. We were actually having a conversation. Uh, this past week with a bunch of pastors and we were talking about like the metaverse and, you know, the fears that can be associated or the discombobulation that are going to can occur because of things like that.

But then also to recognize, okay, well, how can we use that? Could we have church services around the world? Could we have people come in and out? Experienced the holy spirit in a space that they would never otherwise experience. I don't know how that's going to happen, but God knows. And so I'm excited and trusting that, you know, even mediums like this, that we are able to just bring and be.

Exactly. Exactly. And I think that it's such, you know, we hear the word stewardship when it comes to money, like being a good steward of your money. But I think that that applies to so many, actually just listen to your podcast before we jumped on, I listened to it this morning. Um, and, uh, she was talking about being a good steward of your body, but I think that applies to so many different things, including your social media account, including, uh, what's God, what God's given you there.

And that's pretty much the essence. My journey into becoming like Christian influence our love, how you put that on there. I still don't really know what my title would be, but I love it because that's the funny thing though, because conditionally business coaches or whatever realm you want to show up in, they're looking for you to like pigeonhole yourself into a pocket so that people can identify you.

Um, but like label, it really is really what the word is, but I recognized that the further I allow my identity to truly just be in the Lord. That I don't have to stick within the framework that most people want us to be. So like Christian influencers, like, well, what does that even mean? What do you do?

How does that work? How do you make money? Right? How do you live? But it's the recognition that like as a daughter of the king and stewarding our gifts and talents, which are many, we don't have to just be one more. Exactly. And I heard something on a podcast that Matt Chandler did. I think it was actually a sermon he did.

And he talked about intrinsic value versus extrinsic value. And our intrinsic values is simply established by God. And that is, we are daughters of the king. We are we're Queens where errors, we, we are beautifully and wonderfully made. Things and everything else around us, like Christian influencer or being a network marketer or B, and I'm a former teacher and I'm a coach's wife and a mom, all of those things are extrinsic.

That's something that the world's telling me that I am. And while there is beautiful growth and goodness that can come out of someone. Things in the end. And I have, I do have a story where I have rooted myself and allowed that to be my identity, but in reality, to be able to shed all of that and simply say, I am a daughter of the king.

That is my, that is my intrinsic value. And nobody can take that away from me. Oh, it's so good. And honestly, the more that I get invested in wanting to have conversations with women, And that is what proceeds them. I really don't need to know much more, really like that. Okay, cool. Yeah, let's do it. Let's have a conversation.

Let's hang out. Let's get to know one another. Let's travel around the world together. Let's have business coffee conversations, whatever it be, because there's just that symmetry. And I think ultimately that's what God's desire and plan was, is for us to just know that we're all a part of his family and nothing else really does matter.

Exactly. I think of Ecclesiastics. That's one of my favorite books. I know so many people give the book of Ecclesiastes is such a bad rap because it's like, oh, woe is me. And I'm all up in my feels. And like everything's meaningless and chasing the wind. But if you, if you read it and truly get the meaning with how powerful it is and how.

Solomon is essentially laying the foundation for letting us know, like, there is nothing he did not have he had everything and yet. Everything was still meaningless. And it's just a reminder that we can chase all the things here in the world, but everything is temporary. Even my family. I like the, the things that, that God has blessed me with, like a godly husband and being a mom of two beautiful children.

Things are temporary. And, and I cannot root myself in those things either. They are simply a blessing and my husband is here to guide me closer to God. And I am here to be a good steward that here's another stewardship with, with being a mom of two. Those are God's children that I have to steward that time that I have with them.

Um, but to have this. Humble heart that I am here to please God, God, and nobody else. And I am a recovering people pleaser. I know what it's like to do things for other people. And just to want people to like you and to put your value in that. Um, and I F I have fought that battle and it I'm still recovering from it and I still get FOMO and I still get, um, I can get jealous and have all of those, all those things that I don't want to have, but to be able to say them now, and just say, that's just something that.

That's a thorn in my side, but God has been able to free me from a lot of that. Uh, but in, in the. Everything here on this world is temporary. It is truly meaningless because the one thing, the one thing that we can take with us is eternal life. It's either you go to heaven and you go to help one of those two, and I know where I'm going.

And it's just a matter of where are you going? Yeah, I'm there, I'm there with you. We're having coffee here and we're having. Exactly. I think what's interesting is two things you had mentioned this intrinsic piece from something you would, um, worked or had a conversation about or learned from. And additionally, you've mentioned the word rooted a couple of times now, and that is not only a program that I offer called Rusyn wings.

Um, but it's also, I feel like a huge part of my testimony is understanding. Where are my roots, what needs to be uprooted, what needs to be replanted. Um, and then I've also had another gal that was on the podcast previously, who has an entire book around rooted. And I just am envisioning the, um, the imagery that she has on the front cover.

Uh, her name is Charlie page. Just incredible. Visual of a woman being engulfed by roots and what that means. And you can either have a tree that's bearing fruit or a tree that needs to be consistently pruned in order to one day bear fruit. So talk to me about this new identity, this intrinsic knowing of who you are and who you are.

Uh, well, you hit the nail on the head with the pruning because back in 2000 and oh gosh, 2019, that was essentially my protein season. So my whole story, I mean, I have a very long story, but, um, I grew up in church and so I've always been a Christian. I, I gave my life to Christ when I was 10 years old.

That's when I was baptized. And that's how my church worked is you made the decision. To publicly declare Jesus as your personal Lord and savior. So I did that at 10 years. Old, grew up in church, did all the right things, but always struggled with the idea of like, what is kingdom purpose? What is the great commission?

I, you know, my, uh, youth group would go and do all these mission trips. I felt less than because I didn't do them because I never felt like my heart was there. Um, and so I always just felt like I was a less than Christian because I didn't have those wants and those desires to go do mission trips and, and all of those different things.

And, and so I just kind of like sat back and just didn't. It didn't really do a whole lot. I kind of just, I said it was a Christian. I did, I, I love Jesus. Um, he was, but I treated him like my, uh, my spare tire instead of my steering wheel. And, and so, and, and, you know, if I, if I had a big breakup, I knew who I was starting to, but like, he just, he didn't steer me on Friday nights and Saturday nights, you know?

And, but, uh, so I, but I always felt like I wasn't. Doing okay. Because compared to everybody else around me, I was the good girl. I was, uh, I got straight A's. I was graduated, you know, top 10 in my class from a very large high school. Like that's just always who I was. I was the good girl who was just the smarty pants who got good grades and never really got in trouble.

But looking back now, I can see so many decisions that I made that I made, not because of. They were obedient to Christ. I knew that they went against his commands, but, um, I, I made them because at least they, I wasn't doing it. At least I wasn't as bad as, as that. And so I never really walked in obedience, true full obedience for a very long time.

Um, and so I ended up getting married. My husband was one of the best things that ever happened to me cause he's a godly man. Um, and we, so we got married and we were poor in like a one bedroom apartment. He was still in school and I decided I needed a better job than my part-time job as a dentist. And so I, I had coached club volleyball for five years.

And for those full five years, those parents always asked me, are you going to be a teacher? Are you going to be a coach? And I said, no, not in a million years. They don't make enough money. I'm getting my biology degree. I'm pre-med, I'm going like, that's how smart I am. Like, I'm going to like, Exactly. And I just felt better than a teacher and God has a sense of humor.

Every time ended up, every time I ended up becoming a teacher, they, uh, they needed a chemistry teacher and I taught, or I had a chemistry degree as my minor. And then a week later they needed a volleyball coach. And I remember texting my husband. I don't know if I want to do this. I know the hours, I don't, I don't want to be a coach.

And he over text message said, Valerie, this is like a Valerie shaped. Like who else can do coach street and volleyball. Okay. Exactly. There's not very many of them. That's awesome. This is a Valerie shape. Shaped them until they're going to use that. Yes, this is the valor shape hole, walk through it. And he said the least, you know, the worst that's going to happen is you hate it and you can stop coaching.

You can just teach. So. Ended up being a teacher and then ended up becoming the head volleyball coach three years later, I'm still did not want to be a teacher or, I mean, I loved it. I love teaching love coaching, but still I still did not get it that my spiritual gift was teaching and coaching just still like it.

Now I look back, I'm like, well, it's plain. It's painfully obvious that I'm a teacher. Anyone who didn't know exactly everybody else knew, but me, because I thought I, I had better plans. So I did, I did T I co taught and coach the mix, those words up for six years, and then my heart shifted and God said, you're, you're done.

You're, you're done. You paid your dues. This is not my plan for you anymore. And I knew that it was my, I was done because I was, I basically was acting. When my daughter and my daughter, my son was like six weeks old. He was three, but I was acting like he was a newborn going to daycare and it just pained me that he was getting raised by somebody else that he didn't get to see mom and dad very much.

So that's when I joined network market. I had no idea what I was doing. Like I said, I have a biology degree. I taught chemistry. I don't know a business. Like this was not my cup of tea. Um, and I thought that I was too good. Here's my pride coming in. Here's the shedding of pruning pride. And then I just said I was too, I'm too good for that.

I don't want to do it. I don't want to be that person. Um, but God. This, this is what you need to go. Do you need to go and say yes to this? Because I'm giving you an opportunity. You want to stop coaching? My plan was to stop coaching and just teach, not to have the coaching hours to recoup $500 a month.

That's all I want. That's what everybody starts. Network marketing for is $5. Let's do it. And so I, I prayed to God and he's like, you've been ignoring the door. I've had open for you. Ignored the girl, go message. Her asked her how she made money joined the next day. Um, and basic, I I'm even, I'm a coach, I'm a teacher and I'm coachable.

I learn I'm a quick learner. And so I learned how to do that. My, um, my story is not to be. But I was able to retire in seven months. Uh, I know that's not everybody's typical network marketing story. Uh, and some people don't want that to be their story, but it was something I kept dreaming and I made it happen.

And so I was able to work from home doing that. And I've been doing that for six years and I still do. It's what pays majority of our bills. And we've been extremely blessed. Um, it's done amazing things for our family, but in 2019, um, I hit the second highest rank in the company may checks. I never. In a million years I would ever see with two digits before comma never thought I would ever see that.

Um, I gave God the glory, but it was one of those things that I allowed to become an idol. I allowed money to become an idol. I allowed ranks to become idols. I allowed recognition to become idols. And even though I knew that they didn't need to be an idol, even though I knew the right answer and I gave God glory when it all happened.

He, he knew that for my wellbeing, for my faith that he gives and he needed to take away. And so, um, I went through a huge pruning season where we had the biggest paychecks and the biggest sales ever in a year. Uh, two paychecks I hadn't seen in three to four years. Um, and thankfully, because of the big paychecks we were able to save and we were able to pay the bills.

But if I can be honest, those last set of paychecks, if I didn't have the savings that I'd had, we wouldn't have been able to. The bills. Um, and it was a huge pruning season. I had a lot of anxiety and a lot of anger. Um, and I remember laying in bed full of it. I couldn't sleep. I was losing sleep left and right.

And I'm, I would not consider myself an anxious person, but those were one of the moments where I, I didn't didn't know what to do. And I'm, I'm ashamed that I was angry at some paychecks that. Looking back now, I just, I asked my like, how dare you, Valerie. Even be angry at some of those numbers still, but it was, it was the pride and it was the idolatry that I had in, in God.

But here's the beautiful thing is it was painful to go through. But to know that God loved me so much, he was willing to do what was necessary in order for the next chapter to happen. I'm truly thankful for it even. Almost three years later here, I am able to say, I saw I'm the beauty from the ashes from.

And so in the middle of all that pain, I made a decision. I was either going to quit and go back to teaching and coaching, which I didn't want to do because we now had our daughter and I didn't want to leave her. And all she knew was mommy being home. So I knew I didn't want to do that. And so it was mama didn't raise her.

I'm going to put my big girl panties on. And if a coach, right, I was, I was the one saying, Hey, you need to run this mile in 10 minutes or you're doing it again. So I had to look myself in the mirror and say, you gotta run this mile in 10 minutes again, basically just pick yourself up by the bootstraps and just do it again.

But this time do it with. And, um, that's where the podcast came into play. I was hurt. I was in a place of lack. I was in a place of not feeling enough. I was struggling with imposter syndrome. Like you wouldn't believe. And, uh, I hired a coach myself and she coached me through it. And I said, I think God wants me to do a podcast.

And, but I don't know what I'm doing in, and she's like, let's, let's just walk through it. And so in December of 2019 was the very first episode of, uh, at the time, the beautifully enough podcast. And the reason that was the title is because, like I said, I, I grew up, I grew up in church, so I knew that I was beautifully and wonderfully made.

I knew those problems. I just didn't fully believe them, so I didn't feel enough. So that's why the podcast was titled beautifully enough. Cause that's what I felt like I was beautifully enough in Christ and I was just going to walk in obedience with no audience, no podcasting history, nothing. I just, I didn't know what I was doing.

Graphics were janky and I made it myself, everything, but I walked in obedience with it and it has been truly the most life-changing thing to have so many opera. I never thought that I would be a Christian influencer that I would use my. Bible verses, you know, I wasn't ashamed of being a Christian, but to have people come in my DMS head and say, thank you for that.

You, I mean, I just got tagged yesterday that this podcast changed my life, like for, and like just glory and honor and praise to God for that, because I wasn't getting those text messages when I was making five figure paychecks, I'm getting. When I'm making humble means. And I mean, I'm still very grateful for my network marketing business.

It's still pays the bills it's, you know, providing, um, but to, to make kingdom impact is where it's been. It's been a huge, huge transformation in my life. My faith has matured. Trustingly um, not just with the accountability of the podcast, but because I have developed that passion and now I'm, I've just fully accept God.

I see it now you, I, my spiritual gift is teaching. My spiritual gift is coaching. I see it now. And so I, I teach Christian women how to mature their faith and I coach women to a closer relationship with God. And. My kingdom purpose. I have other things that I do, but that is my kingdom purpose. That's what God has put me on this earth to do.

And I will do it until he calls me home. Oh my gosh. I love it so much. I love the fact that there is like so many pieces, the highs, the lows. And I think, well, where we are often sharpened and pruned the most in those low experiences are the very place in which we realize we are called for more and the very place in which we're like, let's help other people from that.

And so it becomes the teaching lesson. It becomes the coaching experience that you get to stand footed over top of as a claim to like, aye, you stuck that flag in. And he said, this is not a place I'll be again. And I love that. You said. It's not that I don't know, sometimes feel these feelings or experience that it was that concept of recovery.

And just yesterday I was on a podcast with a doctor who takes people through what she calls a rhythm restoration and it's through the lens of psychological and physiology, physiological healing. And I think a lot of the times we forget that recovery sometimes makes us stand in the place of ownership of what.

I was an alcoholic I'm in recovery. And that's the label again, that extrinsic piece that people say on you, but your body has been restored. You don't have that liver damage anymore. You don't have those same ailing pieces. And so it's important for us to recognize the restoration path that you have literally serve people through your testimony, which is so powerful.

Those messages that you get that just bring you life in affirmation. It's like the God winks from heaven, they always ended up happening on the exact day that you need them the day that you're like, maybe I won't podcast today, or maybe this isn't happening is anybody even listening to me anymore. And you see the numbers and you see the likes and you see the comments, but what impact is it having?

So. Save someone's life. I mean, it's why I show up doing what I do every single day, because when God gets the glory through our voice, through our words or our posts, all of those places that can seem dark, you recognize that you're literally an igniter for other people's flames. Yes, exactly. And I. Here's here's the beauty behind it is I was reading Ephesians four and it talks about our old self putting off our old self and putting on our new self.

And, um, really truly what I want to embody is is that is the Christian who knows the right answers, but it's the obedience wasn't there. And to empower when we say empower women, I know that there's new agey stuff, that's out there and everything. But when I say empower women, I'm meaning the only source of true power, which is within Jesus Christ.

It is, it is that resurrection power. I want to empower women with that to remind them that is there inside of you, if you are saved, it, is there residing inside of you. And so those promises. That are all through the old Testament about, uh, don't be discouraged, you know, that he will fight your battles. I have, I have, the Lord will fight for you right over here.

You only need to be still. I know he spoke that to the, the Israel lights, but I'm his child too. And it's a promise for me too. And, and I want to embody that, that Christian woman. To let them like, let others know. I didn't go to seminary. I have a biology degree. I minored in chemistry. I was the nerd. It wasn't me.

I'm still a science nerd. But, um, but to, to look at you and say, hi, And I'm a wife and I'm, and I love Jesus with all my heart. This knowledge that I have is, uh, is simply a journey it's from making a decision to fully dedicate my life to Christ, to fully trusted. With these with, with my life, with my finances, with a podcast, with everything, just taking a leap and everything that I know is available to you too.

And that if I can do it, you can do it too. You don't have to be a fancy schmancy pastor with fancy lights and a worst, and you don't need any of that. You just need a Bible. And you need to find time to read it and the rest is going to sort itself out. That's literally what I did to mature my faith, to go from what I call mediocre and lackluster to.

I know it sounds cliche and to be on fire for God, but truly that is, that is what I am is on fire for God. Um, and it, and it's available to everyone and that's what I want to embody. I don't want to ever be somebody that does it. It doesn't feel like it's to. Yeah, this is what I do. And you can do it too.

What I think that's one of the biggest things is like the lessons that are learned and there becomes even in the church, there's like a hierarchial expression of faith, right? Because they're in the pulpit. I will sit and I will listen and I will glean and I will come back next week and I will sit and I'll listen and I'll glean.

And then I'll come back next to. And I'll listen and I'll glean and what's happening is there is comparison, literally being cultivated right inside the church. There is a hierarchy literally being cultivated right inside of the church. And so there was supposed to be this understanding that we have direct connection to.

That we have our own ability to have revelation that we have our own ability to heal and see miracles and activate miracles here on earth as it is, and heaven. And I think we forget that because what is example from the extrinsic, isn't always that, but every single time, Then I spend individual time with the Lord seeking him about something, sending gratitude and Thanksgiving over something, opening the word, reading a new Bible study.

There is revelation every single time. And I think a lot of times people are expecting this. Audible voice from God. It's not that way. Like it's not mundane either. It's not, I'll open the Bible today and I'll read Proverbs. I don't even know what's the day Proverbs seven, because I, you can do the Proverbs a day for 30 days every single month.

Right. I'll read Proverbs seven and it'll be just like, it was last week. But if you come with an open heart and an open mind and that expectancy, God show up for me. I want to hear from you today. What do you got for me today? And you're just having that conversation. His passion is to show off for you is one of these made for he's glorious and wonderful.

And I want to see more of what you're doing. And so that people have one, as women specifically have the desire and the faith and the courage to be. The invoice for the generations that haven't yet heard women speak out about their relationship with the Lord. When the woman at the well experienced Jesus and he gave her this miraculous understanding of her identity, she ran back to tell all of the people, the same people who were just ostracizing her, the same people who were just not allowing her to come to the party or be alongside them or buy from their market.

She didn't care. What the history was. She wanted to tell him about the resurrection and the new life, the restoration that she now. Yes. Oh goodness. I can preach right there back and preach. Uh, it's funny that, so before I jumped on here with you, I recorded my podcast for next week, so I can batch them.

You know, I got to stay ahead, right? Yeah. Busy, busy people. I gotta, I gotta stay ahead on this thing and the podcast. So just spoiler alert for next Monday, I'm going to have it set it's it's fee ways. You can hear God's voice because that is a very good question. My message in Instagram. And so that's for anybody, if you follow us on Instagram, don't be afraid to ask questions because if anything, not only are you happy to answer, but then it's usually inspiration for us to be like, this is what these women need from us.

That is a pod for next week. And I talk about the three ways to can. Yes, number one is this word because it's God-breathed right. Second Timothy tells us all scripture netball agreement with the lie that you hear, because that is a bologna from that. He just wants you not to read your Bible and to do everything he can play.

You can do what is written in front of you. I'm going to tell


You're his voice. That's the first thing we think of is our ears, but he is God, he's omnipotent. He's almighty. He, nothing is impossible for him. And so he can speak to you, however he pleases. And if he wants to speak to you through a thought, don't just throw the thought away. Okay. Don't just hear it. I call it, pulling it Elsa.

My daughter's Ford. She loves Elsa. I love it. But you know, the frozen two, she says, I can hear you, but I won't. We do that to his voice so much. We hear it, but because we think we know where the woman at the, well, the woman at the well had how many husbands four, and I think she was on number five and I'm not even sure he really was husband.

I could be something like that. she was naughty. She was. Uh, a woman of God that you would think, and yet, and she was a Samaritan. Like she was not, she was not his chosen people, not what they were used to. She was not the person that you would think would go and speak his name. And actually he re he, she was the first one that he revealed himself as the Messiah, not just another major prophet, but actually the Messiah.

And if you have those, if you. Digital doubt those, those divine downloads from God. And you think that you're the woman at the, well, I'm just, I'm too messed up. I'm addicted to this, or I have a past or anything like that. No, you are the most perfect person for it because he's a Redeemer and he saves and you people need to know your story, um, because they need to know that he can save anybody including you.

And so don't discount yourself because, uh, I have some skeletons in your closet because you're going to be the most perfect person to know spread the gospel. And I think that that's like that component of people-pleasing and then also perfectionism and, and realizing that you don't have to know or have ever read the Bible front to back to proclaim the name of Jesus or to share about your work.

I was curious as you were, as you were talking, the question prompted in my spirit, do you think, and I don't have an answer, as I'm saying this, just literally curious, do you think when God gives someone or speaks to someone, whether it's that download, whether it's a revelation, whether it's intuition, whether it's a thought, whether it's words illuminated or it's spoken through someone else, do you think that that should be something that we safe Harbor for a longer period of time, rather than just someone so said this to me, or this was revealed to.

Immediately giving it out to the world. I'm just, I literally am curious. I've never thought the question before. Well, I, you know, I, I thought about first Thessalonians when it tells us to test everything against the word of God. And that's something that I would recommend because that's personally just something that I do is when.

When I get those downloads, um, and I can't spew them out fast enough. Right. Whether it's a idea for a podcast or an idea. Yeah. Yes, exactly. And I've, and I've learned that when I, when I don't write them down, I'll forget. I'm like, I'll remember, but no, I won't remember. Not at all. So I have motherhood with young kids.

No. So I have notes everywhere notes in my phone notes here. I have a new app that's trying to help me. And so I'll put it out. I put it there, so I don't forget. Um, and then I test it, test it against his word and just, you know, One, does it go against scripture or is it supported by scripture? Because God is not a God of confusion.

And he's, he's obviously not the father of lies that is Satan, but God is incapable of lies. He's only capable of truth. And so if that download or that thought or whatever it is that illumination that you get, if it is contradicted by. Word then it's not from God. So that would be the first thing is, is that, um, the second thing is also, I have a tendency and I, I talk to a coaching client about this the other day, cause I'm helping her with her journey from network marketing, to podcasting and everything to, um, we were talking about how we want to do all the things.

If we get all the downs. And then we're like, I want to do this and this and this and this and this and this. And we, um, especially my personality, like I can, I can become a workaholic. I can become that. Um, I I'm, I don't like hustle culture any more, but I do, I have a tendency to bend towards hustle. It's one of those things I got to capture, take captive that thought and be like, no, it's okay.

It's not a clock. You don't need to answer that message. So, but I've been towards Hessel. And so what I will want to do is do all the things all now. And so I have to slow down and say, this is if it is from God. Amazing, but now I gotta make sure I have God's timing. So then it's more prayer and it's not prayer.

I, I also warn people, please. Like, if you, if you've prayed and it's so clear and it's, it's there and he know it's from God, but it just makes you uncomfortable. Go do it anyways. You don't need more prayer. You need to take action at this point. Okay. It's true. And we're all guilty of it. God, give me one more.

With our other, I like halfway open, give me you sure. This is what you spoke. Right. And it's, it surely is, especially if you're Cimarron simmering on it enough then to bring it back to God again, and you've already told other people and they're like, yeah, it's good. Let's go in your trusted circle. Right.

And I think that's a component that when you say bring it back to the word, I think that there's also that company. As you were processing like the inner circle, what do they say about it? Is it something that speaks life, breeds life into you? Um, is it something that detracts? Is it something that they're like, that's a terrible idea.

Don't go in that direction at all. Now don't let other people's words though. Ruin the word from God of guys, um, that they're just trying to keep you comfortable. Cause oftentimes people that love you the most, just want to see you comfortable and they don't want to see you. Color outside the lines. Cause they're like, you're doing so good.

Why would you do this other thing? And I'm sure it probably felt that way for a lot of people, even this coaching client that you're mentioning, like when network marketing, like I'm doing good, it's paying the bills. You could've stayed in that lane and not stepped out and added something else. Late and started podcasting and started getting into the word and started coaching and teaching in this realm.

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What was like the leap of faith that made you say, yeah, I'm going to, I'm going to do this. I'm going to do this consistently. And now it's been almost three years. And by the way, I don't think you've revealed it yet, but she has changed the name of her podcast from enough to God is within her, is the name of the podcast now.

And that's because the original name beautifully enough was essentially the description of how I felt. Um, and I said that at the beginning. And so God is with you. This is the new vision. It's the new chapter. It's who've I know I've become, but even more so who the listeners have become how they have matured.

And I just want to be able to, um, cast that vision for them of who they are in God's eyes, but it's the journey it's not based on, it's not focusing on the lack of like, I'm not enough, which is kind of what the original title was. It was focused on the lack and, and the. The self doubt and the self-deprecating thoughts.

And I want to. On God is within her. And I know that that, that song, it's the song, miss writing to the city of Zion, he's writing to Jerusalem. So also it's important to know context, but I do know the context behind God is within her. Her is the city it's God's city and, and the, the Israelites are so scared because they are afraid that they're going to be taken over.

They're surrounded by the enemies. And if that is not symbolic of how we feel day in and day out, Grounded by our enemies and our enemies come in all shapes and forms. And that spiritual warfare is all in between the, your, your two ears in this space right here in your head. Um, and, and we also have our own physical enemies too, but for me, it's more of a mental enemy that I know I struggle with.

And so it's just a reminder. Oh, that, that the Psalmist is talking to the city of God, but we are God's children. And so I know God is within me because of Jesus. We were able to have the advocate, holy spirit come down. He resides inside of my heart. I am his temple. Now we don't need an external temple. I am the temple.

The temple, we are the church and because he is within me, I will not fall because he is my provider. He is my protector. He is my Jehovah Gyra. So that's why I have the new title. And also my mom gave it to me. It's also semi special. She's also the one that came up with it. Two guys that I love. So I think it just.

Yeah. And to have that generational tie, I think is really powerful, um, because it's not always the case. And even though you were raised in that home, I'm sure you even, um, growing in your faith has been a testimony to your mom in such a really powerful way. Um, my mom, uh, and just came to know the Lord, uh, oh, we're going on almost two years, a year and a half ago.

And. I stewarded my relationship and really, um, understanding God high six years prior to that, even though I would have always said that I was a Christian, I was the lukewarm. Yeah, sure. But again, walking in my own, my own understanding of obedience, my own lack of blacks of days ago. Standing of obedience.

And so to be ahead of her, and that was a hard thing to do because it looked so abnormal and so counterculture to our family traditions. And, um, so I'm curious from the other lens, having a mom who was in her faith and took you to church and. You baptize and all of these things, how has she been a mentor in your life?

So she actually is, she probably should have been a teacher. She was not, she ended, she was the, um, office manager of the dentist office that I worked at. That's where she, yeah. But, um, With my parents, uh, really worked hard to break generational curses, um, to not allow my brother and I to slip into the same trends of our family and my brother and I are the first ones to graduate from college.

So we're first-generation college graduates. My brother then took it to another level. And when got his masters and his PhD

you know, does research on mouse, brains and stuff. So he's super smart, but. Um, my parents did an amazing job of making sure that they lay the foundation work for breaking those generational curses for the uneducated, you know, um, uh, dropping out of school before, before graduating both my parents graduated and my mom, um, should she had the means she had the brains to be able to do more, but financially.

My parents grew up very low socioeconomic. And so they worked really hard to give my brother and I, um, a middle-class upbringing. We didn't have a whole lot, you know, but we also were never without either. Um, and so just, I, and I remember specifically my mom telling me a story of when we go get school supplies and it's something so small, but something that has resonated with me forever.

She, when she was growing up, she was only allowed, ever to get the four count Crayolas because that's all they could afford. And it wasn't even named brand. Right. It was just like the smallest one, the cheapest one. That's what she could get for school supplies. And so when we would go get school supplies, I always wanted the like 48 count with.

When they're in the back, you with the box and the lid and everything, and it had to be Crayola. Not that whatever the other brand is because that one's garbage has to be like the crowns break, right. When you hold that. Exactly. Um, and so she never told me no. And she tells, she told me later on, I know she, they couldn't give me everything I wanted.

Right. They also didn't want me to be a spoiled brat, but, um, she. Just get me that. And she said it's because I'd never was allowed to get it. And we worked hard to be able to get that for you. Um, and so they, they, they just laid that groundwork and really, truly, I think if my mom had had the opportunities that I had, um, she probably would've gotten to become some sort of teacher because she did actually do Bible study, like in the women's ministry at church, she would do the one-on-ones and she's still doing it to this day.

She's doing. The, with one of my aunts right now. Um, and so, and I'll call her and I'm like, mother pick up your phone. And then she called me back. Sorry. I was doing a Bible study with your aunt. Okay. I can't get mad at you for that. I think that's, um, she, you know, Or he could have been totally different if she had a different upbringing, but then at the same time, God's timing is perfect.

The timeline's perfect. And, uh, I think I'm just an extension of that. And even though my mom and I butt heads and we have plenty of times growing up that we did not agree. My favorite person growing up now, looking back, I catch myself sounding exactly like her acting exactly like her. And so my poor husband, he's like, you're acting like your mother.

I'm like, well, I know that's fine heads all the time, but at the same time, she's an amazing woman of God who endured a whole lot and taught me a whole lot. And, um, they have, you know, their own pains and their own struggles that they went through in their marriage. But, um, I'm extremely. To have the parents that I had to be able to give us the life that we had so we could do better with the next generation.

And then the next generation. Yeah. It reminds me of the Carrie JoVE song, the blessing, right. And the generation and the generation after that. And it feels like your kiddos are now in that, uh, after glow, right? The consistent covering of your stewarding, what you're doing. Um, and your husband. And I've got as well.

I would love for, cause I have a lot of listeners who are attached probably to a lot of the things that you said from whether it's people pleasing, whether it's the hustle culture, whether it's, you know, they're entrepreneurs, they're, momma's, they're driven. They're they're going after it. Um, they're looking to have.

The first-generation Christians as well. Um, how can you through your cultivation process in coaching and mentoring support? Um, them, if they needed that, like, I need some just. What does that look like? How does somebody come into a relationship other than just listening to your podcast? So I have a few things that I actually help people with.

Um, the first thing is on my website. It's it's Val dash Reynolds dot. Um, my Shopify. I haven't totally condensed it down yet, but it's on the Shopify. All down in the show notes below. That's why we have that. But there's so many things that you can plug into. I have some freebies, everything from, um, I want to start reading the Bible, but I don't know where to start.

Like super simple. I can, I'll walk you through it. Talk about the different translations that can feel overwhelming. Um, and it's a full Bible study on the book of John, where you can finish it in two weeks with questions. Former teacher, right? I have fill in the blank, everything it's there. Um, and I also have for the entrepreneurs, I know with it being decent, we're recording this in December.

Um, we have dream boards that are popping up vision boards. I truly believe that you can do those, um, while being, uh, while being a Christian and while having them based on God's truth. And so I actually, um, am reworking that freebie to make it look prettier right now. But it is something how to dream board as a Christian, where if you are, I mean, work is, is part of the deal.

We are supposed to be hardworking. If you read Proverbs 31, I mean, that woman does not sleep. She does. She gets after it. She buys vineyards with her own money. She's she's so and so, so being hardworking is virtuous, but also not working at, under your own strength. Not doing it for. Own goals, but do your goals line up with God's will for your life.

And that's something that I I've had to learn. I've had to endure. And my, my dream boards now are totally different than what they look like, uh, way back when they are less materialistic and they are more servant focused. And, um, and so I have that whole, whole thing there. If you, if you want to go and grab that for free.

I also do. Um, it's still called beautifully enough mentoring. The name may change soon, but there I do have a mentoring group for Christian women, where if you walk that community, I know that we're still living in a weird, funky time and, and people still don't want to go and fully be face to face. And plus we have technology.

That it's beautiful that we don't necessarily have to do an in-home, you know, around my couch where I have to host you and have food and all of that stuff. It's like, no, let's show up on zoom. Let's Bible study and let's talk, let's have an exclusive group where we can pray over you. And it's an odd, it's not anonymous, but you can feel safe knowing that it's going to stay right there.

And so I beautifully enough mentoring where it's just a membership community, where, uh, for women where you get a daily text message from me. So you get to communicate with me privately. I pour into you every single day with a little. Here and there, whatever God gives me for that day, um, we are working, we do Bible studies every week, and then we have that Facebook group and then there's going to be more as, as God has given me the vision to keep stepping into this and keep doing more and, um, and really expanding this more.

We'll be getting added to that. And then I do my one-on-one coach. Well, that's more intimate. Um, and it's just between me and my client and we just cover pain points and I've helped everybody from just, um, being the new Christian and just walking them through faith and, and doing everything all based on God's word.

And I've done that. I've done. Let's work. Walk through your work. You know, what, what are your pain points? What are your struggles and those things that, um, while church is amazing. And I do believe you need to be plugged into church and go and get that every single week. Um, there are still stigmas with a lot of things that people don't want to talk about.

And so that's where the one-on-one coaching comes in, where we've talked. Um, drugs, you know, drug addiction, um, sexual, uh, sexual sin, um, getting drunk, you know, is that a sin? Like what does the Bible say about some of these things? Like we go there with a lot of it, um, because of. One-on-one. Um, and so those have become absolutely amazing, not just for the client, but for me too, they make me grow and they make me push.

And there's things that I'm like, I've never thought I've had a talk about this before, but here we are. And let let's, let's do it. Let's go there. The word of God goes there. So I'm going to go there to. And, um, yeah, and it's just one thing that I think we, I, I slowly answered it and then I don't think I fully answered here was that was the pivot, the pivot us transition from Golan.

Yes. From entrepreneurship to, um, to the podcast. Just when I first started, it was more of a healing process for me. It was more of keeping me accountable with the word of God. And, um, I think that that's a beautiful thing is, is because I am a perfectionist. I am very type a and need to have all my lists and everything.

And so I wanted the perfectionism and something that I've, that I have to force myself to do is done is better than perfect. And that's what I did with. This just jumping in and it was one of those. I ignored it for two months. Let's that tends to be my theme. I ignore it for two months. And then finally, God hits me across the head with the bowls.

Like I made you stubborn. And, um, but to the, if you, if you want to know what the motivation was behind it, it was not some calendar of like, I need to do a checklist or anything like that. It was a heart transformation. As I, as I got disciplined with getting up early, reading the word, studying it, I didn't have to have.

I still have the discipline it's trust me. It's still hard to get up at five 30 every morning, but I, I loved it. I know like when I did skip it, when I did listen to that voice and just hit the snooze button, you don't have to get up right now. It's just, just fine. It's fine. Those days were awful. I was so anxious.

I was so disconnected. I did not feel, um, I didn't feel like I was in God's presence, which I know I, I was, he doesn't, he doesn't leave me, but, um, I didn't take that step towards it. So, um, I've learned that I feel like, and I know, I know it's not about my feelings either, but that connection, like once you, you have felt like really felt his presence and that peace, that transcends all understanding.

And you start to see things from a different lens where it's not about the money or, or you see money as just a resource. Now it's not an identification marker. And you, you don't see the successes as you have succeeded, but that it's, God has succeeded. When you start to see the world through that lens, you don't want to let it go.

You can't, you almost can't go back anymore because then you go and you start seeing everybody. Not out of, not out of condemnation or, or unrighteous judgment. Yes. Out of compassion. If you were missing so much, let me tell you about my Jesus. You know, I feel that all the time I'll walk into a room and because we're capable of understanding that connection and that alignment, when we're so low, you can get into a space wanting to keep that connection.

So intimate and recognize that. Need like that, the need at that point that we have to become conduits of his love of his joy, of his peace, because people have not yet accessed it on their own. And so that's what you're doing as a teacher. That's what you do as a coach. That's what you do as a. Or a sister, a wife, a mom, all of those things is you're just plugged in.

And that charging that timeframe when you're literally plugged into the word, that's when you don't have to necessarily, it's like your battery operated now, right? Like you can unplug from the wall and you're like, I'm good. But that battery will dwindle. If you don't continue to go back into the living, breathing word of God and understand that.

Is the, you know, the con the, he is the energy source to everything that we do. Yes, exactly. Exactly. Really, really powerful. Valerie, it's been so fun getting to know you. I am so excited to tune into your podcast. I don't think it doesn't matter. There's no levels of Christianity, right. There is intimacy and there is understanding, and there might be wisdom and revelation, but I am constantly seeking.

And so. Having new resources. And I feel like just in this time with you, it's been really amazing to, to learn and glean, and I'm excited for the continued support that you're going to provide your community. And my, now there, them getting to know you, thank you so much for having me. I love, I just, I cannot believe that this is the journey that God has put me on that if you would've told me two or three years ago and be like, Hey, you're going to talk about Jesus a lot on different podcasts.

And I'd been like, Hm, no, no, I'm not in the. It's so cool. Love it. Thank you. Thank you, Lord. Virginity. Yes. And amen. All right. Y'all we'll chat soon.

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